How to date for Men

Male: What are some inappropriate subjects to bring out on a date? Kateryna Spiwak: You don’t want to talk about your ex or old relationships because nothing screams baggage like talking about your ex. Male: Or wife. Male: You probably don’t want to talk about your wife. Kateryna Spiwak: Yeah, probably not, it depends on the situation. You also don’t want to talk about money, you don’t want to talk about any health problems you’re having, nothing negative really. Guys tend to think they need to impress someone on their first date. How do they do that? They do that with a lot of conversation—what comes across is bragging about their accomplishments, “So, you know in Grade 8, I won the award for this and whatever and in college I won the award for this.” And I just keep talking, talking and feeding information as if they were on a job interview. Male: Right. Kateryna Spiwak: So, what kind of an effect does it have in a woman? She’s just getting bored and annoyed. Male: Is this impressive ordering for them at a restaurant? Kateryna Spiwak: Not good, not good at all. You know it’s pretty offensive because it’s pretty presumptuous that the guy knows what’s good for you or knows what’s right for you. You can ask her opinion or taking it into account so that’s really offensive. Male: Is it okay to open the door for someone and pull out the chair for them? Kateryna Spiwak: Absolutely, absolutely, that’s just good manners. Male: It’s not condescending or sexist? Kateryna Spiwak: No, I don’t think so. Male: How close it too close on a first date? Kateryna Spiwak: That all depends. Male: On what? Kateryna Spiwak: It depends on the signals that I’m sending you. Let’s say you wanted to move in closer to me, you’d have to read my body language. Again, it’s a little t ask here. Male: You’re doing an e-block. I don’t think that’s an invitation to come closer. Kateryna Spiwak: What if I was sitting like this? Oh yeah. Male: Well, you’re clearly back into a corner and you’re not interested and your body language is turning me away. Kateryna Spiwak: Right, right, sure. He might try to do something in response to the way she’s touching him. Male: Yeah but you want to be confident you know like a man doesn’t jump unless he has some where soft to land, you know what I mean. You just don’t want to go into that feet first without knowing. Kateryna Spiwak: Right, okay. Well, if I were interested in Jonathan, I wanted him to approach. I might start touching him. I might, “Can I touch your knee?” Male: Okay. Kateryna Spiwak: I might touch his knee. I might just start getting a little bit more comfortable with him and you know maybe a light sexual touching. Male: So, if you’re like, your date takes the lead and you kind of near. Kateryna Spiwak: This is a vulnerable area here. Male: Yeah. Kateryna Spiwak: That’s closing in on the zone. So, by touching his knee I’m sending him a clear signal that I’m starting to feel more attracted to him. Male: But you're not even closing in on it. You’re right on it do you know what I mean? Kateryna Spiwak: Size does matter. Male: Well, I’m just saying.