Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com and we are talking about dating successful women and the topic for this video is: How to find a man online?
Maybe you have been in dating sites already and if you do, that are great! You know, it is a great and very romantic. It is a great place to start interacting with guys and develop a firm flirting style that you really enjoy, or seductive style that you really like. It allows you to watch the trend and practice a lot of attitudes with guys and that in itself a great benefit of going online and maybe signing up for a couple of dating sites.
So, what I want to tell today is first to give you a few tips, so that you will make sure that you are dating experience online is really successful. You do not want to go in a dating site within two weeks give up because you think it is really not working.
I can guarantee you that the online environment is a whole world, a gold mine of possibilities and this tip that I want to give are really to make sure that you are successful with that.
So, the first thing to realize is that the dating site is a little bit like a café, like a club. Some clubs are not going to be really nice in terms of atmosphere and some others are going to be great. Sometimes if you are going to go to a café and you realize that the people who are there you are not willing to relate to and it does not really match if it is not working.
So, with dating sites, it works in the same way. Some dating sites are great. There is great energy, great atmosphere, the features are really nice, easy to use, it is friendly, it is open, it really works well and some other dating sites are a bit more heavy, difficult to use, it is difficult to get response, you do not really feel comfortable.
So, my advice is very simple, before you go and focus your whole energy on just one dating site. The goal is really to go there and check them out. I would say try ten, ten different dating sites, a dozen of them maybe, and once you can not explore, browse a little bit just spend one evening just to do that.
And you check which ones you feel the best in and once you have an idea of which ones you really want to focus on, then select maybe three of them. Not just one, not just one place where you are going to be. Select three of them because one of those is going to be really the one where you are going to feel that there is a big response coming through. That is the first advice, do not focus just on one site but try out which one really on an energy level feels really right. That is the first step.
The second step, is focus rather than finding the right person, finding a man. You focus on just training your dating skills. It means that, what you are going to do online is activate your social life. You are going to activate your communication and social skills and flirting skills, the kind of attitude that you can develop so that guy start responding to you in an open positive way.
So, see a little bit dating sites as a training ground that is my advice. You go there rather than focusing on finding Mr. Right, you focus on just having a good time and activating your social skills and once you focus on that you will realize that this gives you actually skills.
It multiplies your dating power so that when you meet somebody face to face in real life, you have already been activating this skills and it is very easy then to interact with men in real face to face interactions in a way which you feel very comfortable with.
So, this in itself is really very important to remember and start practicing. It is rather than thinking, I am going to send on message on time and if he does not respond, that is it. I am not going to keep on doing that.
What is very important it is that maybe you are not going to get result maybe for the first two weeks? Maybe the kinds of people who are going to contact you are not the ones you would date. That is possible but the fact that you are actively interacting with them and activating your social skills will give you an edge that is very important.
Another advice that I want to give is keep it very simple, a bit sexy, light and firm. Exactly as if you were meeting people face to face, you do not want to go into the whole story about what you expect from a man in long term.
All that is nice but in this situations I would say keep it light, simple keep the message of that you send relatively short. You do not have to tell about your whole life story. It is just about having fun and interacting and also practice also network dating rather than focusing on just one man. Focus on having interaction with as many men. That is all for now. You take care and have a great day. Bye, bye.
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