Francisco: Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com and we re back here with Phoebe I am asking her questions about guys seduction and you know what really seduces in man. And then, she has been talking previously about guys has to be male and that there are only fractional man out there who are able to express this quality. She was mentioning earlier that most man actually come up to her behaving the dating scene with feeling of fearing and desperation and that is not very good so the question that I have for you now Phoebe is what advice do you have for guys? I mean you are there you are mentioning that they are they look really in fear and desperate from approaching woman and when demands to speak that to you something that express what advised do you have for them.
Phoebe: Well, I say firstly, stop seeing woman, as you also like spot, like, they are hunters. I am going to go out tonight and I am going to fall of bed. And it is like what if we just go out we will friends and enjoys yourself if you happens to meet somebody then it is good. But do not go out with the mission to try and pull a woman because a woman can see that coming in a mile away, and that is a biggest turnoff ever. Then if you do get rejected, it is hurts more because you know that was your aim and you failed your aim so you are going to feel bad. So stop seeing woman, as something that you have to get all the time, and still you want to enjoy women company, get to know woman. And we are all different so we do not you know I think man have been hunted out or doggy manual of how to handle woman and they all use the same techniques and it is ridiculous because when all the same. And you can see them going through the motion it is like even if I been out it the guy who always had a girlfriends. You can see him literally going to through the motion of what he is being for with the pother girl like testing you out and say, oh my other girls for like and she is like this. I have a girl when I you know what I mean is like...
Francisco: And when you say they come with the same techniques what you mean exactly, do you have a feeling that everyman will approach you in the same way?
Phoebe: Absolutely, it is goes wise. It is so boring. It is like, here we go. We have joke of my friend as they watch to this I am going to tell you exactly what is going to say and what is going to do. And we just all laughing well at my friends are in the corner and I watch this is how it is going to go and we just as an exactly in same so as stuff to say the same behavior that what why is boring and that is why I never go out with them. Because it is like wide bulls and interesting you not original, you are not being your self. If you were yourself then maybe, I might be interested in you, but you just left a clown above the other guys of being across.
Francisco: And what will these guys say? I mean what have the kinds of lines are you come up with?
Phoebe: Well, upon go down and have somebody cheesy lunch but it is not so much the line it is the approaches, it is like, so you hi, you him. So where you look really nice and not so hope up on something on. You can feel been lack of confidence you know it is just the things lot of things like; do not ask you for a drink possibly. Do not tight cause a lot of guys we work by your drink. And then anything all okay now, as a woman you know the guys bought you drink then he thinks you are his for the night. So you could not buy back. You cannot have that drink, then goes to somewhere else, and talk to somebody else. You have to talk to him all night because he bought your drink.
And then you will just spend that night the time ding small talk which really on interesting and some guys have a sort of path and that like fall alike as a steps. Step 1, step 2, and they do not deviate from that. And it is like you know something happens while in a situation like something original different way. Guy could maybe express self more because there maybe something funny happens or situation happens. He cannot response to that because he is too busy in his mind with his 12-step program of how to get this girl. And it is like you are talking to a robot and it is just you know let us just get there. Are you bought him the drink. You are going to talk to me nicely and not for a bit then you are going to ask my phone number. Then you going put, it is like, been done that, it is like so boring. But if the guys are more successful, and who are just like you have a not maybe the really, really, really like you. But they are not bothered in a way that they just obsess by you. There are just like to be talking to other girls, they will be dancing all do you know interacting with the other people not focusing on you. And those are the type of guys that woman goes because they are like, she has a personality he is moving around he is doing stuff and not what for me anyway perfect, that is more frantic, when a guys is not like making a V-line for me.
Francisco: But you are saying is that gold honestly. I think that dozens of guys out there should really listen to that and listen to the full set of videos. We will be coming back soon with another question. I have to think about it. But for now if you are guys and you listening to that go back to vitalcoaching.com/DatingForMan.htm everything we are discussing is right there. Take care and have a great day. Bye-bye.
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