Hi my name is Fransisco Bhajan and I am your coach here and your host on VitalCoaching.com. I would like to answer for you quickly this answer to this question that you asked. How to get a guy to notice you? I guess you come up with this question because this is the question that you are asking yourself, I will give you a man’s point of view directly. Maybe this will be useful in understanding how guys function. The first tip I can give you is they are to be more sexy. Literally, when guys are attracted to you, it is also because of what you radiate on that level and that if you feel that a guy that you like is not really interested by you or not noticing you right now, what you can do is simply go a little bit beyond your comfort zone and dare to be a little bit more sexy. Selecting the way you dress and the way you look, and the way you prepare yourself, that is one element. The second element, which is very, very important is the radiation, what you show about yourself, what you actually present. Many guys will be attracted to you, not so much because of your looks but more about because of your attitude, because of the way you radiate or the way you express yourself. When you interview guys on this topic, very often they would say that the first thing that attracts them when they are attracted to a girl or to a woman, it is the fact that she looks really happy, the fact that she is outgoing. If you look like you are really self absorbed, really thinking about yourself and really self conscious this will be usually a turn off. So simply dare to be your self and dare to express your records and dare to be outgoing. Of course you don’t have to frivolous, you know, jumping around, you know in a funny way. No, it is more about daring to be yourself and daring to express your radiance, daring to express your natural joy, pleasure and happiness to be alive. If you look like you are self absorbed or if you have problems going on in your mind, or that you have hang-ups about anything then most of the times this will be a turnoff. So remember these very simple things. If you want to be attractive, if you want to get a guy to notice you, you have to dare to play the game literally. This area of flirting and this area of dating is really an area where you have to dare to play the game and step into it rather than looking at it from the side of the pool. The other very important element is that the flirting tools, the most important flirting tools that you need are really eye contact and your smile. That is as simple as that. You can look into very complicated ways of accessing a guy but what he will notice first is really eye contact and your smile. If you have already practiced those ones and are able to put them in place and really dare to show him that you like him, dare to show him that you are interested. If you look at a guy, you don’t have to stare at him of course, you don’t want to look at him as if, you know, with big eyes and in a way which will make him feel uncomfortable. What you want is simply, dare to sustain eye contact a little bit longer than what you would do usually. It means that you can look at a guy and sustain eye contact for maybe a couple of seconds and this works really wonders, then your smile. And then that is an excellent way of making the first contact. Just try them, practice them, you can practice these techniques or strategies as well with guys to who you are not interested simply as a way of flirting and once you get really comfortable and very good at it, you can then head for the real target or the kind of guys you are really interested into. Okay, I hope this makes sense. You take care for now, and bye-bye.
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