How to make Anal Play Safe and Fun

Jennifer: Hey guys! Thanks for all the great comments. Keep it coming. We always want to know what you think. So take them in and after you watch this video to leave a comment and tell us what you think about it. And we have actually brought Paul Carlson back today to talk about—again, the fact is anal sex really dangerous and this is it okay? So, Paul, what kind of follow-up thoughts do you have because the first video had so many comments and so many ravings? Paul Carlson: Well, what a firestorm, it’s still going. Jennifer: Yeah! So what else do you have to add after all that? Dan: He said it was safe, he said it wasn’t. Is it safe? Paul Carlson: Okay, for clarity. Anal sex is not safe. No sex is safe. It doesn’t exist. In terms of having sex with other people or putting things into your body, it’s not safe. The bottom line is, we’re not here to make any kind of moral judgments or religious pronouncements or any of the rest of that. This is to help people who are going to do it anyway regardless of any of that stuff. Jennifer: Oh, we’re all going to do it anyway. Paul Carlson: Well, yeah! So the bottom line here is to try to share information with you that makes it safe or at least as safe as can be. Dan: Look, we always say, be smart, be informed always. Ignorance is not helpful. Paul Carlson: Right and in the first video, we talked about some things that are very important and if you haven’t seen that, you may want to go back and watch it and give us a high rating and— Jennifer: Yes. Is anal sex really dangerous, that was part 1. Dan: Five stories if you're confused, the five. Paul Carlson: One of the things that we did not cover in that one however is the fact that sometimes people have anal sex with themselves or even with other people but they're using sex toys. And that if you're going to do any of that, you have to follow some very simple rules and its kind of similar to when you are doing it with another human being and that is cleanliness. Clear out, void the channel. First, make sure its all cleared and use a good water based lubricant, not an oil based lubricant which will get absorbed into the tissue and you want to make sure that what you're doing is reasonable. What I mean by that is there are some of those sex toys out there which are very large. Oh! Dan you're stretching your imagination again. Dan: Sometimes. Jennifer: Some of those things scare me. I look at those and go, “Oh my god!” Paul Carlson: Well, and they should. But you know, some people are into the extreme sex okay and we’re not here to judge what you do. What we’re saying is be careful. Dan: There are plenty of other people who won’t do that. Paul Carlson: Well, there are and the thing is that that tissue is stretchable just like your muscle. Your muscle here, you work out, guys work out to get their biceps big and their packs and all that. Well, what you're really doing is you're breaking the tissue and then as it heals, it heals back but larger because it’s broken. So its actually creating extra tissue. The same thing happens in the anus with the whole anal channel. So what happens is, if you use something that’s very large, it stretches that tissue and it may loose its elasticity especially if it’s really stretch, extremely so. Jennifer: That makes me—the guy that we had a few weeks back asking about the flashlight and really wanting to stretch something normally large— Dan: I’m sorry but that was really disturbed. The guy that was trying to put really big things up his girlfriends butt. Jennifer: Yeah, the bigger the better. Dan: Look guys, safe. And be informative about this. This is not the place to practice some rough sex. Paul Carlson: And the thing is that your anus was not designed for that kind of thing. And so you have to use a little bit of common sense here. And also, again, I’m going to repeat myself and that is not the place to be practicing rough sex. Some people like that. They might be masochistic in nature, but you know what, that anal channel can get stretch to the point where you can’t hold anything in. I’m not going to get into detail but you can figure out what I'm saying. Jennifer: Diaper is one word, diapers. Paul Carlson: Diapers for the rest of your life. Dan: Come on guys, its serious. Paul Carlson: And so you know, use some common sense here and think about it a little bit. And this also applies to males who would be the “top” in this situation. Who are unusually well endowed is you got to use a little common sense here. If you're not sure, don’t go there. If you're interested or you're doing it already, whatever, there are lots of websites that give extreme detail if you will about techniques and all the rest of that. We’re not promoting any of that but the thing here is, you know, cleanliness, go slow and if it really, really hurts, stop. Jennifer: I am sorry, my brain went back to yesterday on the live show and Dan has got safe sex paragon, be safe, be smart. Dan: Oh, yeah. We have a mascot, safe sex bear. He’s like, be smart, be safe. Jennifer: And show us today that he is like riding the camera today so— Dan: He’s our buddy, he’s over there. He’s like, hello! Paul Carlson: Hello!