Hi, this is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about Dating Success for Women.
The topic for this video is how to tease guys. You remember that earlier, we talked about first dates and ways of breaking the ice. This is the number one strategy that can be applied when you meet a guy. It is really to tease him.
When we are talking about teasing him, it does not mean exciting him sexually. It means to challenge him verbally in a playful way.
Now, what I want to give you in this video is a few tips to be able to do that in an effective way. When you tease him, you use humor. You really bring in the sense of likeness and you manage to break the ice with him so that you have a light connection with somebody you just met, or a date that you already saw a few times. It is a way of communicating, which is really effective in creating complicity.
Playfulness is the key word that you want to remember in this kind of dating situations. Remember that you are at least responsible at 50% for what happens in the date situation. The guy you are with will of course initiate the date, but if you come with a date with a very clear image, picture or feeling about what you want, then you are going to be directive and then eventually, set the tone for the date. If you tease them, this will of course have them full of wind to a direction which is really a good opening for establishing complicity.
When you want to tease him, I will tell you couple of things which are not okay. You do not want to tease a guy on sensitive topics. For instance, if he just lost his job, or if he just condemned, if he has a weighted issue, all these areas are actually sensitive. You do not want to tease a guy on sensitive topics because, of course, he might get hurt.
So, on which topics can you tease a guy?
Well, you tease him on topics, aspects of his life, or personality he is very proud of. Here are some examples. If he has a nice sports car for instance, you can tell him, “Are you trying to compensate for something?” You will see that when he answers this question, he would try to defend himself, and then you can full work on the discussion on the specific topic. Once you use introduce a teasing direction, then you can full work with extra questions on that. So if you talk for instance, about cooking, you can ask him, “So can you cook, besides boiling a couple of eggs?”
Here are some more examples. For instance, if he gives you his number, you can say something like, “I will make you regret this.” “What is the longest you have been with a woman?” Or to a guy who is really good looking, “I did not know guys were into plastic surgery. Wow, he did a really good job on you!” Or if it is obvious that he spends lots of time in the gym, you can touch his bicep and say, “Nice implants. I cannot even see the scar.” Once he gives an answer to what you just said, then full work with another teasing line.
The favorite topics to tease him about are his body, especially of he is very good looking or if he trains a lot, car—we already mentioned that, profession. For instance, he can makes lots of money, or he has a profession that he is really proud of, you can break the ice by teasing him on that and simply not taking him seriously.
You see that at the moment you play this kind of game with him, you set up a tone, a direction. You can tease a guy with these kinds of questions, but of course, you can also tease him physically. For instance, you can pinch him.
You can tease him as well through body language, for instance, by giving him a flirty look, or pretending you are not interested.
The key word to remember is playfulness. You might think, “Well, will this not create some form of superficial connection with somebody?” The moment you can use humor with somebody, this creates an instant sense of complicity. Of course, if you never teased a guy before, you might feel a bit challenged by introducing this new behavior or attitude in a date. But the more you practice it, the easier it becomes.
The best way to train this skill is to practice with guys who are not challenging, especially when you are not on a date with him. It could be a friend at work, or colleague, guys that you knew already and to who you are not really attracted.
Remember that the average guy will be a bit anxious about seeing you at the first date. Now, when you use a teasing line to something he says, you break the ice instantly.
That it is for today’s tip. Enjoy. Take care and bye-bye.
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