How to Date a Guy From Work?

Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about dating success for women and the topic for this video is getting a guy from work. Is it a good idea?

You know, if you are working in the office or in building in an organization, you might have a crush on somebody you work with or this is kind of flirty play going on between the of two of you. And you really like it and the question you ask yourself next is “Is this a good idea to start dating him?” And then, what I am going to cover it here is really the situation that you might facing in this kind of context and see if it is a good idea to take this to the next level. So, the first thing to realize is that for this working you need to be both free.

Okay, if you have already a boyfriend or husband and you decide to engage into a life fictitious connection with this guy as long as it stays life flirting, it is okay. The moment you start going out on dates, this can bring big trouble. The same, the other way around, if he is not free, if he has a girlfriend or if he is married and start dating actively him, that is going to be a problem most of the times. Why, because you might start getting more and more attracted to him and maybe he is not ready to leave his partner and somewhere down the line, you might start feeling rejected. You will start feeling both uncomfortable at work so all of that creates a whole chain reaction of emotions and situations, which are not very easy to deal with the job.

So before you take that step and before you start dating somebody actively make sure that if somebody, you feel that there is a good potential for enter an relationship together. If it is just like flirting, I would say keep it within is like flirting context with that making it serious with that engaging into actively dating. And the that is, very precise boundary. On top of there are lots of guys out there, lots of woman as well in within the work complex, within the office context, we are going to be actively flirting with people. They do that all the times, it is just part of their personality. It is just part of the way of relating to other people and bringing fun and likeness within the workplace.

So when people do that, very often it is misunderstood. For instances, you have a guy who comes to you and he is very flirty, he even touches you physically on your shoulder and always want to relate you and talk to you. How do you have to understand that? Does it mean that he wants to have a relationship with you? What if he is married for example? What if he has a girlfriend? And you know that. What does it mean exactly? And very often he just means that flirting is fun in itself. What he is meaning very often is that he just wants to engage into a light, interaction in exchange with you. Yes, that can be some sexual attraction. That can be some, you know, he might even like you, you might even think that if you work together it would be a good thing. But, you know, taking that from a flirty connection all the way to the next level to a committed relationship it is a totally different story and that you have to understand that within this work of this context this kind of things happened a lot. It happens all the time within the office environment and you have to understand really, what is the level of attraction, which is happening by there.

And to do that, again, first find out if he has a girlfriend or he has a wife and on your own side, if you are already committed on a relationship, ask yourself is this good ideas to submitting somebody else and eventually moving to a relationship with other person. If you feel that it is just light attraction and just take for what it is, just enjoys it for what it is in a life uncommitted way. Another question that comes to mind, of course it is a business ethics and within business context within an organization context is very often. The organization you work for is in discourages with you openly, dating between co-workers and you have to check this out. You belief it is not really within the rules it does not mean that you cannot bend or break the roles every now and then. But doing within outside of the office complex or others wise you might have been in trouble.

And one more thing is if you think of starting having fling and having casual sex with that person, imagine that you are going to be seeing this person at work over and over again for next months or years as long as you were together. And this might be also tricky just protect yourself in that situations so that if you get you do not take any action that you might be regret it later. Okay, I hope this makes sense. You take care and have a good day. Bye-bye.


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