Francisco Bhujan: Hi! This is Francisco Bhujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about waking up your power and the topic for this video is how to be a kinder person. Again this a question that was posted to my channel and at first it looked I didn't had idea what to say to that because it seems that being kind is something that can feel very natural for certain people and maybe it will be more challenging for others. So, the key to be a kinder person is to love everybody that's that simple the reason to why you are kind is because you love, because you respond to somebody in a kind way and there is an exchange of identity to recognize your own essence in somebody and the natural reaction is to care for other people. So, if sometimes you feel that you are being nasty and you are making nasty comments to people or hurting people without wanting to do that, there is something that you have to do which is actually records you need to be too focused but it is retraining your behaviors so your skill is retraining your attitudes.
If you have been practicing a certain set of emotions, for instance, being a bit aggressive or being nasty with people in general; these behaviors are learnt attitudes right. You were not born as a baby with everything that you have -- you integrated them over a certain period of years, right, over certain years and these became your character; that's what you call yourself. But in fact it's not you, it is just a set of behaviors that you integrated, you decided that this was maybe the easiest way at certain moment to behaving that. Now, what you have to do is recommendation, train new behaviors and new attitudes so that they become part of you. So these new behaviors and new attitudes; what are they? And you have a whole setup of possibilities, things that you can do.
The first one is to practice active kindness. It means that anytime you have an opportunity to be kind with somebody, to do adjust your something which is going to be nice for that person just go ahead and do it. It can be as simple as saying thank you a man thank you and smiling at somebody, you know, establishing a -- smiling and being kind really these kind of things. Another way to practice active kindness or to strengthen this kindness quality new is open up simply behave friendly. When you connect with people, you can smile right, you are arrive with them and they see that you are an open minded person; somebody who is friendly and who can -- you are easy to connect with okay. So that's one of the thing that you can do.
Another way to practice active kindness is to compliment people frequently. Everybody is craving for some form of validation and very often people don't get that. They don't get that at work, they don't get that in the family, friends, so one way of strengthening this quality in you is also to complement people more frequently and you will see that when you complement somebody feels pretty good, it's a nice feeling when you say to somebody "I really like your hair today hope you do something special with it". It is nice, why? because when you give love, you don't give love just to yourself, you give to other people and you may give it to yourself as well. The flow of that energy creates a nice sensation inside of you, so giving love maybe you might say well that's just self issue. No, but it's beneath it it's the way to win. That certain attitude of certain expression of forces that are going to be very beneficial for those who are invoke to why not express, why not have a good laugh with somebody instead of crying or arguing, right.
When you are laughing together, when you are having fun in sharing joy; that's a very nice feeling and it's something you can strengthen, you can encourage, okay. So this idea of complementing or giving something nice to somebody is something that you can do very frequently, you can choose for that consciously and this is called validating people, alright, you give them something you recognize good qualities in them, you keep them imposing if they feel bad rather then they get to feel bad. Thanks for being on time I really appreciate the fact that you validate relationship and you show that by showing upon time -- it's that simple or thanking somebody for being who they are.
I really appreciate your presence I think it was a wonderful discussion we had and I want to do that again; these kind of things. When you start thinking about it, you realize that you have dozens and dozens of facilities to do that on a daily basis. So go ahead, practice it and realize that it get a little bit of time to recondition these smile sets. So practice, take care and enjoy bye, bye.
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