Hi, this is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about dating successful women and the topic for this video is I do not like the men who are attracted to me. This is another question that was posted on my channel and it is coming from a woman who has been looking for Mr. Right out there but she is simply not too successful with finding the right person. So I see that you did post on this specific question, you did post to another comment need to be neglected which has to do with attracting a man which have to be more money, right?. That is one of the things that you will mention, so I will answer this question within that complex.
The first thing I want to say is that when you say I do not like the man who are attracted to me, this shows a little bit of yourself defeating attitude. It means that I am pretty sure that in the man who have been attracted to you, there was at least one or two who show at least some of the qualities that you were looking for, so rather than saying I do not like the man who are attracted to me, try to identify exactly which wants where the ones were closer, the closest to what you were looking for and what did they have for qualities. This will put your results within a bit more of a positive prospective because I do not think your results until now have been hundred percent negative. I am sure that you got some attention, I am sure that you got a couple of nice dates, I am sure that there has been some results but simply not as high as you would expect.
So putting it within the prospective will give you more positive vision on what you achieve so far. Second thing I want to say, is that at most of the times, the people you attract are the ones which are within your social circle or who reflect the qualities that you express yourself so what tends to happen is that if you want to aim high for instance, try to shift when need to be social circle, you will have to leave behind. A big part of maybe your personality, yourself, things that you are use to, eventually the parties do you mends to go to and starts shifting your social circle and starts renewing that and this is can feel like lots of word because it means that maybe present friends, you have to learn to say no to them. Now, it means that you have to shift lots of things in your life around to eventually, start attracting the audience you have in mind.
Another elements that I want to mention, it is that sometimes we have this romantic picture or romantic ideal about of the ideal person who want to have in our lives and realities simply a little different, the events of life confront you with people who are do not match with this romantic dream. So sometimes it has to do with the fact that, this romantic dream is simply not realistic for one reason or another, so having a couple of reality checks on your dreams or your vision or your desires, your wants are something you can do quite frequently. You can set these things, realistic. I do not like expectations realistic, that is another reality check that you can make which are going to save enough of time because sometimes if you want to have in mind is simply to farfetched, too difficult to achieve or to far away and yes you know with the law of attraction of course we know that we can achieve absolutely everything.
We heard that already but when it comes to confronting this dream or this vision with reality, sometimes we hits on raw blocks and it takes lot of perseverance, courage, determination to breakthrough. So this needs to meet with the next points, it is that when you aim for, let us say that you put a four of five on lining and you select only men who are above that the hundred thousand income of yearly income. If you select that options, once you are going to release your audience to maybe two percent of the man who are available on that side. It means that you are going to enter into an area which you will go to become much more competitive. It means that yourself as a potential date, you have to perform much higher that it going to be much more competition on there as well. So when you focus on the target which becomes more and more narrow, eventually, the level of difficulty to reach on that target, on that goal becomes higher and higher. This means that whenever of your perseverance, determination has to be much higher. It is not enough and you just tend to standup and expect results, you need to focus on that consistently over months, years and much more often to you and what you are looking for. So perseverance is one of the key I use to remember, take care and bye-bye.
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