I no longer feel sexual attraction for my husband
Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from Vitalcoaching.com. We are taking about relationships, couples and the topic for this video is I no longer feel sexual attraction for my husband.
There are really key question that was posted on my channel so I am going to give you a few hints, few answers, few strategies to deal with these specific one. This one was posted by a woman obviously and you say that you still feel sexual attraction, you see if you have sexual desire but simply not for your husband, not for your partner.
So we are going to check first the causes. Why is this happening? The reason why it is happening is because as say you have been married for few years, you have few kids together and the romantic attraction, the sexual attraction that you had originally with your partner is kind of no longer there. And this happens to many couples out there, right?
You simply get used to each other, you focus a lot on practicalities of life, and you go focus on making a good living, making good money, job professions and when this happens, you simply have very little space, time and managing that for nurturing your sexual life or your romantic connection with your partner.
So this happens to many of said couples from this planet and it is one of the big challenge that you will face when you get married. So, another thing that happens is that when you go to work, when you come back home stressed up, you do not already have the resources or the energy to start connecting with your partner.
Many guys out there, probably 50% I heard in the UK for instance say that they are too tired to have sex when they come back home after day of work. So, this is very important, it is part of you know one of the key challenge that you will face as a married couple. And so what are the solutions, right? What are the strategies I mean what you want as solutions?
So the first strategy or the first possibility is simply you have to live with it. That is really possible one, maybe your sexual desire is something that you can live with it, you can feel need but simply not express it physically. That is one possibility. I know that is maybe not the best but we are covering first all the possibilities, everything that you can do so that you can select really the strategy that works best for your situation.
So live with it, right? You might a bit dissatisfied, a bit unhappy but it can still work for yourself.
Another one is to express it outside of your relationship. Sometimes when that being in a relationship, which is open, you and your partner decide that you can no longer satisfy each other’s sexual needs, you decide simply to express the sexual desires outside of the relationship that is one possibility. Some women of course will cheat on their partner; you will have an affair and these kinds of things. That is another thing that happens. I am not judging here if this is good or bad, right? Simply telling you what happens, what are the solutions are and what you can tap into when you face this kind of challenge.
Third strategy would be of course the best is to reconnect with your partner on the romantic level. And you do that by simply nurturing your relationship. You start simply investing again emotional energy into what to share with your partner. To do that of course you need two persons who want to make this work, right? Your partner needs to participate into that as well, he needs to make himself more available on the sexual level as well. But simply imagine that your relationship is a little bit like a garden, right? You plant some flowers you nurture them. Your romantic space with your partner needs to be nurtured in the similar way so that is one of the possibilities to go.
Another possibility, simply step out of the relationship, to leave if you feel that your needs are no longer fulfilled and you had it with this relationship. This happens throughout as well, you go on divorce, stepping out, breaking up and this is another possibility. So I do not know right now what is your strategy? How you are dealing with it, maybe you are already finding a way of tackling that and you are reconnecting with your partner for instance. The question that I want to ask you is, is this a deal breaker? If it stays like that for three or four years, are you going to break up with your partner?
If yes, what I would like you to do is simply get in touch with me. Sign up for a coaching session, go back to vitalcoaching.com and get in touch and have the coaching session with me. This is a perfect topic for session, why? Because we can check the situation and really I can help you make the right choice with this kind of situations. So, right now what you can ask yourself is what strategy am I using and is this working for me? If it is not working, it is time to do something about it and I will be really glad to help you with that. Okay? Take care and have a good day. Bye-bye.
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