I talked to my crush! - What is next? - FOR WOMEN
Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about Dating Success for Women and the topic for this video is “I Talked to my Crush! What is next?”
Wow! Well done!
If you want to had, when connected with him that is very good thing. Congratulations with that and you must be happy and proud about yourself. Because having the guts to go and talk to a guy when he is your crush, I mean this requires some good confidence, some good skills and you went ahead indeed. So well done! Okay? That is the first thing, be happy about it.
The second thing is that good focus about dating yet. When a guy wants to ask you out or you want to ask him out, very often you already know each other a little bit and you think that there is good attraction, there is good complexity and it would be fun to see each other within one on one, you really are in dating situation.
So if it is not happening yet, do not worry, it is okay. Everything is right on track. You can totally relax, totally enjoy what is happening and all you have to do is keep on connecting with him over and over again. In a very simple casual way you are going to tease him again, be sexy, be flirty play this dating game and you will see that after a while these builds are the attraction between the two of you and you start really getting to know each other and starts being lots of fun.
So go ahead and keep on doing what you have been doing until now. If you went ahead, you know talk to him go ahead and do it again until you have a good connection and relationship build up. Now, it is actually to be tough time, a little bit of focus for this connection to build up. Very often you will be seeing each other, you will be chatting, flirting a little bit, these kinds of things for relatively, you do not feel of having. It can be a month, two months until soon you will realize, okay this is mature now to go to the next stage eventually and have a date together.
Now of course you know you can also go directly to him and ask him all the dates. You can say well why don’t we go to the movies one day or come with me to the mall in the weekends out there and I will be glad to see you over there. Come and have a drink with me or something like that.
You can of course go and take the step but if you do not take the step, it is okay no problem. You can build up a connection with him and simply enjoy the time that you are having together. It is very important when you start feeling attraction for them the way you do, not too obsess about that okay? Do not focus all your energy, all your thoughts, all your emotions on that single person because there is no guarantee that he is going to respond to your expectations. Respond to what you offered him too in the extent.
So you can set yourself free from that. You do not have to build up too much expectations, too much hope that you are going to end up in a relationship with him. You cannot step back; keep on enjoying your sexual life with everybody else. You can flirt with all the people or the man or the guys and enjoy it. You do not need to commit yourself emotionally just to that person. Unless, you start dating and then you feel like you want to be committed and exclusive with each other. Then want to see all the people outside of that relationship that is another possibility.
But for now when you are in this kind of casual connecting, flirting area, it is essential that you do not obsess and focus on him only. Keep your options open, keep your dating and other social connections totally open and do not stay at home waiting for him to call or waiting for him to show and these kind of things. If you wait and sit back but often you end up a bit disappointed because he does not respond fully to the expectations that you have. So, stay the scent of your life. That is how you can summarize this. Stay the scent of your life, remember that you are the one who is in control, you are the one who is in charge of your existence and do not let yourself just totally shift and start being totally emotionally committed to somebody until it is clear that is two way connection. That there is really a two-way commitment and that he is ready to be in a relationship with you.
Okay, this dealing with having a crush or navigating through that is probably one of the big challenges that you can face as a woman. And it is very nice when you start feeling like you can live with a crush without losing your self, okay? You can enjoy being in love without feeling like you become totally emotionally dependent on that only person. You stay free, you stay in charge of your life, you stay center on yourself and at the same time you enjoy the pleasure, the passion and the fun that is being shared between the two of you.
I hope this make sense, enjoy and bye-bye.
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