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Jennifer: This is from our YouTube viewers. I get so jealous when my boyfriend watches porn.
Dan: Umm… bad boy.
Jennifer: Do you have any advice on how to get over my jealousy? When I see my boyfriend watching porn I hate it. I figured it is cheating because you are imagining doing in the other person. It is so frustrating.
Dan: So frustrating.
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Dan: Alright, men are virtual creatures by a large exceptional decide. Men like ah you know men want a CD action they want it helps them imagine helps them fantasize, helps them indulge. Women fantasize. Have you seen all the romance novels they are really steamy sizzling hot romance novels that all the teenage girls read you know the one that.
Jennifer: Not just teenage girls.
Dan: Or whatever that did all the women did on top of sale or least. It is not the guys reading those that is girl porn. That it is good and really that is the equivalent of that is the girl porn equivalent. It is like the porn videos that men watch. This is just how the women indulge.
Jennifer: It is true. So, if you are going to say that porn is cheating so romance now is cheating basically if you fall that logic through then you are saying that fantasizing is cheating.
Dan: Yes.
Jennifer: And, I just cannot agree with that, it is not cheating to fantasize you know. I mean,
Dan: It is normal if nothing else.
Jennifer: It is normal, yes it is normal and it is healthy.
Dan: You know kind of sort of part taking and extracurricular.
Jennifer: You are hiding the note I just cannot see it.
Dan: Just, I am sorry, Oh I have forgot the notes. Yes--Or taking an extra curricular or have you feel on the side that is cheating. You know lying to your partner about doing this doing that, about seeing someone else. That is cheating! Lying to your partner about you know full sex with somebody else about whatever lying with your partner is cheating.
Jennifer: So, interesting point, you know porn is really this kind of a visual fantasy but if he lies to her about watching porn is that cheating? Aha?
Dan: Guy’s cannot really get thing again.
Jennifer: Yes.
Dan: I swear!
Jennifer: I cannot get away anything.
Dan: I swear! Under the thumb hmm!
Jennifer: Now, seriously this is kind of off topic with our definition of cheating is “breaking of trust” or I still lying--you know doing something that would not do it with your partner sitting right beside you. So, you know if he is deceiving you that is not a good thing but here is a thing if you try to control him and make him stop watching porn? Guess what he is going to do yes. He is going to watch it behind your back.
Dan: But as far as you are getting over the jealousy? You get the point and you just getting over this jealousy just, just accept that, it is him is him feeding his fantasy. It is perfectly normal ultimately he is with you. He is not dating with those girls.
Jennifer: If he could go home and have sex with the porn star?
Dan: Yes! Exactly he is in relationship with you, he loves you, and he has sex with you.
Jennifer: Yes! So, try watching it with him. Okay, that is what we recommend when someone has trouble, someone else watching porn or whatever you can watch it all together.
Dan: You mean it surprise her with her sex life?
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