Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com and we are talking about dating successful women, the topic for this video network dating, the key to find the right men.
When you hear of the word network dating. Well, discretion expression network dating, you might wonder what this is about. The idea is very simple rather than focusing on just one man in the beginning in the early stages when you start dating or flirting or looking for finding men out there.
The goal is to keep your options open and stay in contact with a few men, as many men as you can in the beginning. This works especially when you are online. I would give you a few tips that are very important so that you do not get hurt, so that you do not get your hopes too high and then feel like you are rejected or that is a man out there who you like and does not respond to you.
The goal here is really to keep your options open and protect your emotions and make sure you do not get hurt and make sure that you do not have a crush on the guy. That he does not respond to the extent of your expectations.
The key is very simple, in the new stages for instance when you go online, if you are in dating sites. Suppose you have found this dating site and identified it as being the place where you want to be a bit more active.
The first step is start answering or responding or interacting with as many men as you can. It is not to go online and find the profile, the person, the man who you think is going to be right.
Most of the times if you do that, when you find the profile or face somebody that you really like you will see that very often you will come across somebody who is already taken, who forgot to take off his profile or is already in a committed relationship.
But they still would want to play around or maybe there is something else in this person that disqualifies him to be with you in long term. The goal is to keep your options open and make sure that you do not commit yourself to somebody for there is a fear of sign that it can work.
Here is what you can do. The first thing is to realize that being online for instance is a way to train your dating skills. To develop a dating body that you can really feel comfortable with. If you go online and simply focus on most of the time, this is going to crush you or it is going to be tough because maybe the man is not going to answer to the extent or to respond to your expectations.
Again, the goal is to keep your options open and see this whole 2:43 environment as a training ground. The same if you are going to parties, going to clubs. You can see that as a way of activating your social act in general and that is the first step.
Once you start interacting with a few men you will notice that there might be two or three of them who you fill much more attracted to, maybe if you are in touch with 10, 15 men who is relatively easy to do when you are online.
You will notice that after a while there is this attraction that starts building up and there is a response to you. it means that it is mutual. The man you are attracted to starts responding to some extent then you can start narrowing your window and start investing a little bit more time and energy to these guys.
We are not yet talking about commitments right? It is important that you stay emotionally fit. You do not give life to somebody until it is clear that is a two way commitment. You do not want to function as a, now that I am interacting with that man or with this two men.
I give my life to them before there is a clear sign that it is mutual. This is the place where you have to be very careful. You to stay in charge of your life and realize that the energy that you give away is something that you should get back in one way or another, so it is important that you invest yourself to the extent that they invest themselves back into that system.
So, you will notice that once you have this selected two or three guys that you feel okay. These are really good potential, I feel that I could really have a good relationship with one or the other of those then the goal is to take that one step further. Eventually, meet them face to face, have a date, have an interaction with them which gets in to real life a bit more.
Maybe phone conversations, personal emails, these kinds of stuff. When you are in that stage still kind of interacting with two or three men, you still do not have to commit. You still can keep your options open and still maintain the possibility to choose from one or the other. You stay within that area for maybe a period of two-three months very often.
I hope this makes sense. You take care and have a great day. Bye, bye.
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