Hi, I’m Daris Lancaster Stojakovich, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Life Couch. And today, we’re talking about holidays stress and some tips for coping with stress as well as eliminating and relieving it during the holiday season. And right now, we’re going to talk about a really common stress on doing too much and too little time.
So how can I avoid the stress of having way too much to do and too little time to do with in? This is a really common feeling most of us get because added two are normal daily routine. We have all of the advance, all of the meal planning, the travel, the gift shopping, decorating all the list of to do, items get longer and longer. So, when the first thing you can realize that you need to do is to plan ahead. Now again, we know that the holidays are coming. We experience them about once a year.
So, if you plan ahead, knowing that you’re going to be busier, you can actually decide like some people to begin shopping earlier. Shop early and often. You can do a lot of things early. Some people will find that addressing their Christmas or the holiday cards early can really put a jump on. Even putting a stamp on it and throwing it in the mail when the holidays is approach closer, can be really just something that you’d be amaze on how much time and stress relieve that can cause.
Another thing you can do to relieve the stress of having too much to do is learn to say “No”. No, it’s one world. It’s a complete sentence, No. You can add to it “No, thank you”, “No I’m too busy”, but generally just no. Being able to say “No” if you look at your schedule and realize you have too many events scheduled, three events for one weekend is too much for some people. And again, it might be that exhilarating and motivating thing for someone else. But if you’d find that doing too much is a source of stress for you, make sure that you are aware of your calender, aware of the planning and be able to say “No”.
Another thing that you can do to eliminate the stress of doing too much and too little time is to delegate. Now, if you’re going to choose to delegate, you have to keep in mind to about who you are delegating to. If you choose to delegate to someone that you know wont’ follow through, well, that’s your own expectation is going to lead to more stress. So as you choose to delegate, the common met that I can do it faster or better, you know, than anyone else needs to go out the window. It comes to “Do I need to do it myself with the risk of it’s possibly not getting done?”, then you can choose to delegate the things that you feel comfortable letting go to someone else.
One easy way to delegate is instead of doing all the holiday festive, meal planning and hosting yourself to have a meal were you’re the host, where you creating environment in a setting and you guess spring the meal.
Another thing that’s very helpful to handle the stress of doing too much and too little time is to really take time for yourself. To be able to take quick breaks, to be able to have an escape a heaven to go to. Be able to learn some techniques and tips such as mindfulness practice that we’ll talk about later. It’s a practice of being present and deep relaxation techniques and even self hypnosis techniques that can really change the mindset and turn just a moments time in to a really good distressing break.
One thing that people tend to miss when they caught up in the hectic busy state of the holidays with too much to do and too little time has they’re not enjoying the journey along the way to the destination. A lot of people say that after the holiday is over, they feel like huge sense of disappointment. You know, after the gifts are open Christmas morning for example of the holiday, meal is eating, they just feel a let down.
Well, clearly if they had learned to enjoy the journey or been able to enjoy the journey along the way, they would not have that empty feeling afterward. To be able to enjoy the journey, do not dread it. For example, let’s use a holiday meal, you put a lot of anticipation and expectation into the holiday meal. When the holiday’s meal is over, if it didn’t turn out as you wish rather than being in a moment and enjoy what was really happening, a lot of time you might just feel that it wasn’t appreciate and that they didn’t receive as you wish they did.
One thing you can also do is to realize that during interaction like that, you can actually take charge of the situation if you’re aware and being present in the moment things like stopping negativity.
So I hope that some of these tips for reducing stress of having too much to do and too little time during the holidays has been helpful for you. And next, we’re going to be talking about relationships and family interaction and how to avoid the stress of those during the holidays.
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