Gloria MacDonald: My name is Gloria MacDonald and I am a dating and relationship expert. I have a dating service called Perfect Partners and we cater to the forty plus professional market. I have also co-authored a book called "Laws of the Jungle: Dating For Women Over 40", but frankly men over 40 get an awful lot out of this book too. So today we are talking about dating for men and women over 40 and in this particular section we are talking about how men hunt.
Speaker: Why do men hunt?
Gloria MacDonald: Men hunt because again it's a biological imperative and it's thousands and thousands of years of evolutionary psychology. For generations and generations men had to hunt to bring home the bacon, so to speak. They literally had to go out and kill the game, so that the family could eat and today that hunting has been translated into the workforce and moving ahead in the workforce. If we think about it the baby-boomer generation is the first generation of women who could actually have a job that paid enough to support a family and we can't underestimate how much it's ingrained in men that it is their job to bring home the income and support the family, even if that's not what's really happening so much today.
Still, men earn more money than women do. If we look at the North American population and even the global population, men are earning much more money than women, but it's something that is so ingrained in men that this is their job, that their role in life is to have a job and support a family and so today instead of literally going out and hunting for game to feed the family they have to go out and hunt for a job and they have to continue to move ahead in the workforce. That's there modern day hunting ground. When it comes to women, men used to really hunt, when we were talking about being in our teens and twenties, because there were more men than women, but now over 40, frankly, there is an abundance of women and men are scarce.
So when the game is scarce, men have to hunt. When "the game" as in women, are abundant, men really don't have to hunt. It's like fishing in a barrel of fish. They don't have to hunt today. So there is still that hunting instinct, but what happens today is for men over 40, I have heard one man in a focused group we did in the lot of our research, this one man said, the smart man today sits back and waits to see what women are interested in him and then makes the first move.
So, they are still hunting or fishing, but they are fishing in a barrel. They don't have to work so hard at it and they don't want to work so hard at it because frankly, if you were at 40 plus and you are single, you have been in a relationship, all of us have been through rejection in some way shape or form, none of us wants to stick our neck out on the line. So men are less, unless willing unlikely to stick their neck out on the line and make all those first moves.
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