Male Perspective on Wedding Planning

Millie Mart Bratten: Hi I am Millie Mart Bratten editor in chief of bride's magazine, welcome to inside weddings. One thing I have noted during my years in the wedding industry is that grooms no longer take a back seat when it comes to planning the wedding. It's refreshing to see how wedding planning has become a shared event, but that didn't happen over night, and when a couple gets engaged, it's still the bride who gets the bulk of the attention. After all few people ask the groom what he is wearing for the big day. So we thought we turn the tables and get some recent grooms and movement in the spot light. Male Speaker: But just a lot of nervous, but just good nervous. Male Speaker: For I Knew we are in the -- no on the way there, and for new groom already home in the -over. Male Speaker: Everybody had a great times, I had a great time. Male Speaker: I've down to myself but I would try every single or driven their green -- hour and I felt very good. Millie Mart Bratten: The origin of the married groom how to do with the term bride groom, which was the man who handle the stables to care the care and feeding of the horses. And what it meant for the bride was, that she became his property was all that property. And now happily it's no longer the case. How did you know? Male Speaker: After a certain time a kind of nervous this is type of person that you want to be with, and I mean she was perfect for me would compliment one and another, it was just must during the courage to take that plunge. Male Speaker: We have been dating since high school, I knew this is was going to be my wife, I mean she was the one, she is perfect and all the quality that look for in women she had on them, I mean I knew I was going to marry this girl, was just the matter of you know just the timing in our lives. Male Speaker: I knew I was ready, when I went away for a weekend with the friend of mine, not even a weekend actually really just a night and I just missed that, I realize that, that point that I would have rather than home with her do nothing and have with my friend doing something as you know this is that's what I want to be. Male Speaker: I have know my wife for years, before we became romantically involved. And we hadn't seen each other for a while, and then by chance we bugged in to each other and I think I knew right then that movement. She didn't know, it took her little while you know. Millie Mart Bratten: It used to be the one man with sure, he gave his lady a ring made of gold, but when this fellow Archduke Maximilian of Austria gave his choose a diamond in 1477, well every girl wanted one. Male Speaker: I've tried to avoid Tiffany's but would guide on there, this oh lets just take a look, and there would -- her so I through out the time I've got to know what, what her taste were like. Male Speaker: Just came out one day and said you know, if you are going to get a engagement what kind of ring would you like and not really I but I answered just completely not what I was going to go. Millie Mart Bratten: There are couple of things to think about when choosing a diamond ring, the forces which your color the color the stone cut what the cut of the stone would be clarity how clear or clarity it might be in carat, which is the size. Male Speaker: It's pretty difficult I mean looking at the different things color clarity carat -- Male Speaker: It was interesting going down to the jewellery district where and my cousin bought and I have just seen, anything that was there, and then in stones size of bolders and everything between basically. Male Speaker: She sure before I dating, she brought me to see it, at the store and when I went to see the ring, I know what is the ring for her, Millie Mart Bratten: You leave it or at one time a man simply kidnapped women much like this and dragged you after your neighboring village that was a proposal and the wedding. Later a man had to rule his sweet heart to in her hand, and this put a great deal of pressure and then to come up with unique and memorable proposals. Male Speaker: I hit the ring in a box of chocolates and really just planning to out to turkeys restaurant were just for valentines and I strategically place the chocolates in her apartments so when she came home from work, she would see them along with the bouquet, roses. Male Speaker: I decided to get her a massage at Georgia Clenk and I spoken to her the miss use, we could do prior and I discussed with her that I was going to come in during the massage so basically 45 minutes massage the miss use left the room. Male Speaker: What I did is on her company website, I made a special page that was dedicated to her and the picture of us. I basically wrote like a small poem for her at the bottom it said will you marry me. Male Speaker: I showed her ring and she off course start crying and that was without actually saying will you marry me, I think she got the picture. Male Speaker: When she open the box of chocolates, and saw the ring she was pretty flabbergast, I didn't even get to say will you marry me, she just said no way no way but I think she said that the because she was excited. Male Speaker: Just started crying right away, she was so exited and I mean its was just like complete joy, like it was just issues in the amazing movement one of favorite like movements in my life. Male Speaker: After she said yes, we basically immediately got cracking. Male Speaker: Stuck that over, wedding magazines and she was watching all the wedding shows at have on television. Male Speaker: She made a huge binder, with the she is very organized, she is still buying bridal magazines and we will be married over a year now, she can't stop. Male Speaker: We both went to see bands and visit photographers and but a lot of the final decisions I left that to her, basically just said you know if you find something interesting let me know and I look at it and then we both like it we go with that. Male Speaker: I was very surprised but how much work it was, it's a very stressful process for me, believe I lost about 30 pounds, by the wedding day. Andre & Desiree : Waking up I very nervous, I know was the big day, she came in to the own chapel and at first her just my vision was blared I just couldn't even see her, then I just getting started to getting closer I were more, more focused and our I saw my beautiful bride. I was very emotional, I thought I might tear up, but I didn't some people said I did, I am going to strict with my story the reception, was a blaze, the band was go great and every body had a great time, I had a great time. Archie & Angie: the church, ceremony was pretty longer, took about an hour, let that just the way Pilipino wedding started to go, my favorite movement of the whole day I think was just residing her vow together, on the alter, just looking in to her eyes and it will be read alone the house to one another and there was pretty heart felt you know I put a lot of thought in to my vow and she did as well, and we didn't know what each others vow would be and I was just surprising to here, what she was saying and I am sure she will surprise when she heard heart my heart felt vow, but every beat of my hear I will love you this is my sole of vow. Tony & Limore: I woke up very calm and I was well relaxed, I was so anxious I think I wanted to get on with the day, but since the ceremony start I was nervous at all, and put the rest night. I just nearly great time, we just may be feel great inside that so many different people from different aspects or both are alive, we just all gathered there for one reason to see its great -- marry. David & Melissa: I just a lot of nervous, but just good nervous, it wasn't nervous like oh my god you know if this is a big turning point in my life, like excitement, and like butterflies and its just the whole build that for everything. I think the most exiting point, of the entire day were my emotions, were just running while, was when I've initially saw my wife, see you are so beautiful, the emotions I've run while them in and I never thought that like I never thought that I will cry my wedding day, but did. Male Speaker: I learned that as soon as you had the term wedding on to any other now on, the price quartiles Male Speaker: I learned the importance of giving in a appropriate gift at a wedding. Male Speaker: Flowers I mean I never thought I get all the difference between, hydrangea in a gardenia. Male Speaker: And now yourself to take time a wait from the planning, and just get to know one another, better and not let this planning stress you order create and straight between you, because this is really you embarking on a life to gather you want to started of a n good know. So far married life is great, we have a one year old puppy and we were working on the kids. But no regrets, it's been wonderful. Male Speaker: Amazing clip say but I did feel different, after we set our eyes do. Male Speaker: My favorite part of being married is just waking up every morning next to her and seeing her is the first sight and just great to spend every day and I know that every day I am going to coming home tired, it's fantastic its every thing that I could have asked for. And, so, the journey begins.