Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about dating success for women and the topic for this video is, My friends told my crush that I like him, help! This is another question that was posted to my channel and what I want to tell you is very simple. You do not have to hide, no fun, everything is right on track. It is very, very good that your friends told your crush that you like him.
Actually there is nothing to be ashamed off. There is nothing to get afraid off. What you want to do right now is give your self back a confident boost, okay, the confidence boost. You stay within your power. Do not let this disturb you in any way. The time that he knows that you like him, it is not something you have to hide or be ashamed off. That is one of the things that women, girls frequently do when they feel attracted to a man. She is trying to make sure that does not see it.
And why, big mistake, no, let him see that you are quite attracted, let him see that you like him. Do not do that from a too demanding way coming on him to hug of course. Let him see that there is interest. That you are attracted. That you fancy him. But at the same time, do no commit yourself emotionally to a guy. That is the thing that you cannot do. When the guy sees that you are totally already taken focus on him, that is the thing which is going to create some form of discomfort. But if he sees that you are attracted, but at the same time that you stay emotionally free, that you keep on interacting with other guys. Then this releases the tension and then ask him to look at it from different perspective.
He thinks, okay, she is attracted but she is not that easy. It is not going to be easy for me to go in and get her because she is surrounded with all this guys who appreciate and like her as well. So I will have to fight until, yes this is a bit of a challenge and I like that. I like being challenged as a dad. So he will start taking steps to try to connect with you.
So do not make it too easy for him. It does not mean that you are into play games, it is really make things very complicated. Now you want to keep things simple but at the same time, show him that you do have other options. Now when you do that, this is what happens, the guy will value you more if he notices that other men value you as well.
Another mistake that women make and her girlfriend is to show a guy that they are often permitted to him before there is a clear sign that there is, that love is reciprocated, your way around that. Actually he likes you as well and he wants to be in a relationship with you as well. So what you can do is really make sure that you keep on interacting with other guys. You go to this party, and you are talking about going to a social event, that is great. You go to this event and rather than focusing on your attention on him and hoping the world and they are having very high expectations about that.
You go as if nothing had happened, okay, as if nothing .As if you did not know about your friends. If you comes to you and says, “Hey! Your friends tell me that you like me.” You just go, “oh, really, how interesting. Why would they that? Do you have any idea?” You know it is easy when you tell him that. Rather than feeling like there is just anything you have to hide or being ashamed about. So here is what you can do, when you go to this party, rather than focusing on him, you focus on other guys.
You give lots of attention to other guys. You flirt actively. And you go over sexy, you are really attractive but at the same time you focus on one of the guys. You pretend, you act as if he was just amongst one of the most ordinary others. And if there is attraction on his side, if it is something that he wants to pursue, you all ready gave a hint. Oh, your friends did that for you. So that is very good. You all ready knows that there is a possibility or potential. This would trigger his interest, his curiosity and then he will want to know you better.
So it is very important that you do not focus on him. Do not put him in front of your attention and simply play the, you know, wallpaper girl who stays there and just waiting for him to come to you. No, you have to be socially activate, show him that you are a magnetic girl who gets lots of attention, who is socially fairing, popular and that you enjoy your social life. That you are not there waiting for him to take the step. You are not very dependent of his action. You go there, you are confident, you are strong and especially not ashamed of any your feelings, okay. Enjoy the party, go for it. Take care and bye-bye.
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