Online Dating - Can I Really Fall In Love Online?

Jennifer: Hi. This question is from one of our awesome YouTube viewers. Dan: Love you guys! Jennifer: Dear Dan and Jennifer. I have been chatting with this guy online and we are really hit it off. And I have stunk at it, just a lot okay, a lot of times when we get questions from YouTube viewers, they’re like this long, so if it is— Dan: Like the email ones aren’t any shorter. They’re sort of like—ten paragraphs. Jennifer: If you send us a question, make it short, because we cannot read a novel one, although the background information does help. Dan: And it maybe does help by summarizing, but we got to blend it down to a couple of sentences anyway. Jennifer: Yes okay, so back to the question. I have been telling to this guy online and we really hit it off. Is it possible to fall in love with someone without meeting him in person? Dan: Yes, it is possible and it is unfortunately a recipe for amazing disappointment because you are falling in love with your own imagination, not the reality of the other person. Jennifer: It’s very true. Jennifer: Yes, you just do not know the other person. When you know very little about someone, you correspond over a great distant and you disperse and latch on to a few things, they’ll really speak to you really close to your heart, and all of a sudden, your imagination fills-in all these other wonder perfect things about the person, then you’re best buds, soul mates, it’s all good until you meet. Jennifer: Yes, there are things that happen in person that can never happen online, okay. Body chemistry, that is a huge one. How does the person smell whether it is, I am not talking about body odor okay but we all have our own kind of personal smell, or our own personal energy, or aura or whatever you want to call it. You cannot really experienced that across the internet or on the phone or on webcam—you just cannot do that. And there are certain mannerism that will happen when you’re interacting together, when you are watching this person interact with other people, I mean these are all things that you have just simply cannot get from over a webcam. Dan: Yes, it is all about personal connections. We have a need to be with other people. Yes, I say I have friends all over the world, we are blessed to have so many friends all over the world which is so amazing and awesome. No really, it’s great. When we’re talking about a partner personally who is a strong part of your life, people need human-physical contact. We are human beings and we need human-physical contact. When we get so many questions about online dating for example, “I meet this great guy, he is so awesome.” Jennifer: “We chatted for three months, now we are getting married.” Dan: “We are both going to spend an incredible matrimony and we go see each other and be together on the exotic island somewhere” but you never met. Quit doing these long term romances online, we tell people this so often. Your imagination fills it, all these things about the person the way you liked it to be. Online dating should be called online introductions, just really simple. You meet folks, you get off in the computer and go meet that person in real life, quickly. Jennifer: Yes, okay so you have heard what we think. So, leave a comment, tell us what you think—Can internet love, without meeting someone, be true love? Dan: And you don’t have to agree with this. We wonder what you think, really. Jennifer: Yes, you do not have to agree with this. Dan: No, it is okay. It’s okay.