Jennifer: Okay, switching gears. By the way, before I switch gears from sex to online dating, if you have question for us, go to the Forum, and if you don't know where our Forum are, look in our YouTube profile, or go to http://askdanandjeniffer.com/ and click on the little tab at the top, that's Forum.
Dan: Yup, there is where you can ask any of your questions, whatsoever. We got with us a panel of experts that are ready to help you with your questions--
Jeniffer: And the growing list of members that are there to help you--
Dan: Huge and growing community.
Jeniffer: Yeah, there are no haters in our community, they are banned.
Dan: Banned promptly, yes
Jeniffer: Yup. So, helpful supportive advice.
Dan: Good that way.
Jeniffer: Okay, here we go. You are ready?
Dan: Yup.
Jeniffer: Online dating, to pay or not to pay. Dear Dan and Jeniffer, I just can't seem to meet single women in real world situations. I have tried to meet women on free dating sites, follow the rules to my best of my bellies - I am honest, having no pictures of girls - talking about hobbies, life goal, sounds like he is filling out his profile?
Dan: Yeah, --
Jeniffer: Nothing. My friends are bugging me to join a paid site like http://Match.com/ or eHarmony, but isn't a paid site just telling the world that I am so desperate, I have to pay some one $30-50 a month just for the possibility of meeting women? What reasons do I have to think that I will be anymore successful here than I was on the free site? Our pay site is an insulting admission of desperation or simply using another tool in the world of meeting women?
Dan: God, this is so simple - not sure where to go. They are like ten different ways to hit this. Okay, I am sorry, sorry - you're saying that there are millions and million of people on match.com are desperate? Guess what, there they are looking for somebody and they are serious about it. I am a big believer - if you are doing it, do it, all the way, burn the bridge, burn the boats, go forth and do it. Right?
Jeniffer: Yeah.
Dan: If you are going to do it, do it, and you are already online - and you are not doing online dating. Years ago there was this stigma, that online dating is for losers, real men meet women in bars - I mean--
Jeniffer: Now we have to tell people to - come now -- we get questions like, well, I fell in love with this guy online, but I have never met him. Now we are dealing with the opposite spectrum with that, okay.
Dan: Which start the filling problem--
Jeniffer: Yeah, online dating is a norm these days. Okay, more than the exception, and --
Dan: But we still see people who - they are like, if I pay for it --
Jeniffer: And first of all, who cares what anybody else thinks?
Dan: Yeah really, who cares of that?
Jeniffer: I will not care, if you are desperate or not, maybe you are, who knows. But, if you really want to meet someone, I think, a paid site is a far better option than a free site, and here is why? Everyone else on that site put their $30-50 up a month too, they are serious, okay.
Dan: That is the key point there, all those of the people are real serious about it, and you show that you are serious about it. There are all there for the same reason. You know, you can meet people on Facebook, on MySpace, and whatever else, they're not there for dating - some are, some aren't, some maybe. Everybody on a pay dating site is there for dating--
Jeniffer: And I am not an eHarmony fan, so don't take this the right way. I have tried - I have tried to fill there--
Dan: There is no right way!
Jeniffer: Don't take this the wrong way, but I have to tried to fill other profiles three times, and I am obviously not serious enough about it, because I can't get through the profile, but think about it, the people who did make it through that profile process to get their profile up there, are very serious about meeting someone.
Dan: And that's where any guys have that kind of an attention span.
Jeniffer: I don't know, I really don't know.
Dan: But there are lot of women.
Jeniffer: So, there is nothing wrong with signing up to a pay site. Now try to make sure that you don't miss anything, right.
Dan: No, I think - whatever --
Jeniffer: Yes, I think women are going to take you more serious - oh, and there was one other thing we didn't mention, talking about putting forth the effort and putting out the bills to do it--
Dan: Being serious about it all the way.
Jeniffer: Really, really serious about meeting someone, why not try a real live dating service? Yeah, the kind of that costs like $6000.
Dan: If you have the cash and you are serious about it, begin. Go forth and do it.
Jeniffer: If you are looking to meet somebody to get married, why not? You know, you can waste years of your life trying to hopefully find the right person, or you can pay these guys who have all of these psychological profiles, and all these people and they actually meet them, and they are screened before you meet them, and all this kind of stuff. Why not?
Dan: Yeah, if you are serious about it, go ahead and do it.
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