Hi, this is Dr. Anthony Kane from the Complete Connection Parenting Program with another parenting tip for you.
Today we discuss a letter I received from one of the people who write to me. My son will soon be 17 and he lies a lot and is constantly sneaking around. He lies about small things that don't make any sense to lie about. He has been talked to and punished for this, and nothing seems to work. It has been going along for a long time. We do not trust him. What should we make him do to understand that he should not be lying and sneaking around? I know teenagers do this sometimes, but he is already on restrictions for this. He does have ADHD. Do you have any advice?
Well, the first thing I would say is you should know that ADHD has nothing to do with his problem. ADHD children, they can behave well, they can listen, they are honest. This is a problem that sounds like an Opposition Defiance Disorder problem and a defiance teen problem, and that is a different issue entirely.
One thing I would say is it sounds like your child does not have your trust and is not acting in a responsible fashion. These are the things you must address quickly because your child is already about 17 years old and he will be an adult soon. He must have these adult skills.
Now, when we created the Complete Connection Parenting Teen Program, we did research in four different continents, and we have found that things like lying and responsibility are about the easiest things to take care in correcting your adolescent and older teenage child. So what I suggest you do in situation like this is find a good parenting program that is specific to ODD children, that will address your child and address the problems of his age group, not a general program, but that is specific for his age and his problems, and take care of his problem, and address it directly at his age group.
Now, again, I would say that we have found in our program that these things are very, very easy to fix, but you must focus on responsibility and must focus upon taking responsibility and trusting and giving over trust and teach your child to be trustworthy. When you do that, lying is not going to be a problem at all for your child, and it will go away very, very quickly. Again, I suggest you find a program like that, and enroll.
Again, this is Dr. Kane from CC Parenting from the Complete Connection Parenting website. Do you want to get more information for children, teens and how to control their behavior, go to ccparenting.com, and enroll in our free newsletter program. Thanks, have a great day.
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