Picking Up Women Secrets

Hi this is Alex from succeedatdating.com and I want to welcome you to another video training session. In this video training session, I'm going to reveal the two unique strategies that will enable you to set yourself apart and differentiate yourself more than other guys out there, so women see you as the only logical choice and they stay with you for a lifetime, hopefully. So the first strategy is very simple. It may sound generical, frankly a lot of guys ever look this, it is dressing well. Dressing to stand out, dressing to be uniquely different from the masses, from all the other guys out there. Now that doesn't necessarily mean, you have to wear a suit, no. You don’t have to wear a suit. You don't even have to wear a jacket. I wear jackets because that's a personal preference of mine but you don't have to wear a jacket, you can wear jeans, a nice shirt, clean clothes, clean shoes, very important; a fresh cologne. This may sound very ‘oh you know Alex, I know this already but quite frankly a lot of guys don’t do it. When you approach a woman in the street or even in a bar or club, you are completely against every other guy that approaches—hat has approached her in the past and let’s not kid ourselves here, that's what happens. Women judge you, they look at you and they sum you up within merely seconds and they make these presumptions about you. About what kind of friends you have, your social circle, your lifestyle. Are you a very sociable person? How much money you do and where do you live, what kind of car you drive? They make all theses assumptions about you subconsciously. So consciously they don't register these beliefs about you but subconsciously that they are happening deep down in there and they are judging you. So you want to make a very favorable first impression, it's all that dressing well and having a solid first point of contact as you are remembered. So I want to share you a very quick story with you. Now I fly often, currently I'm in Southern California and I'm staying; this is my hotel room and one thing that happens, it has happened around 50% of time. When I travel I get upgrades and it happens to a lot of people but it happens to me more than it does to my friends and I’ve kind of figured out why this happens. Now when I approach the front desk, when I check in and I check in my luggage, I';m dressed well. I dress superbly well. I wear this jacket, I would wear, if you’re wearing a white shirt or you’re wearing a tie, sometimes I would have a pocket square. Now I don't do this because I like to impress the person I‘m sitting next to on the plane, no. I do this to get upgrades and it happens around 50% of the time. Now who would know dressing well, gets you upgrades on flights but the fact is, I mentioned a pool, one of these flight attendant’s to the side and I ask her about his. I said, ‘why do people who dress well could stand out, why do they get upgrades more than people who don't?’ And she said, ‘I supposed it' s a great revelation, it kind of makes sense, very logical but sometimes you just have to be reminded. We kind of know this already but sometimes you know; you just acquire somebody, just remind you do. So you judge your memory and you go whoo, that's amazing, okay I'm going to start incrementing that from now on. Well dressed people, they act well. It's a common presumption made by everybody but I ask this very particular flight attendant and she says, ‘when we see well dressed people, it's a presumption, over thumb that they act well.’ So we put them in first class. Now I paid poach, that 50% of time I get upgraded to first class. Why? Because I dress well. I have deceived to act well. They also make these assumptions about me that I would earned more money, that I would have so powerful friends over that sociable friends that I have a great lifestyle, that I’m more intelligent. All these different things always presumptions, who would know that when I board a plane, that these presumptions have been made about me but just by the way I look, just by the way I clothe myself. With that in mind, would it be too far fetch to assume that assumptions like this are made elsewhere. Like when you go out to bars and clubs or when go out to the date to meet women, when you go out to meet a friend or a colleague or a loved one for lunch. Who would have think that this assumptions would have be logical to think that people make these assumptions about you. Of course it would. They'll be looking you up and down and these are subconscious assumptions. They look and they don’t even know they are registering but it's registering there, it's registering. So that's the first tip; dress well. Dress to stand out and differentiate your self more the other guys there. That's the goal. Now the second piece of advice I want to give you is have a plan. The first three minutes is all about you. Now again, this is something generic, you probably heard me saying this before if you’ve seen some of my videos. If you head out to succeedatdating.com, there are heaps of videos there for you. I've always stressed the first three minutes is about you. So the worst thing you could do is walk to a girl and say hi, how are you going? Oh I’m Alex, very nice to meet you so, how's your night? How’s things going? Now, very rarely, you can onto some circumstances, use that approach, if it’s very laid back it’s during the day and it’s very low key, very low energy but if you’re going out at bars, at clubs, so we even most street approaches during the day, you need to have a follow up plan because women aren’t going to hang around their forever for you. So you need a follow up plan, the first three minutes is about solid attraction. Now I have been doing this for years now, so I have a solemn, I have so much material to say in the first three minutes. I'm going to give you something uniquely, you can say right now. If you’ve been watching my videos, you’ve seen some of the pick up videos I do and is still a little hesitant about going out and approaching during the day. I want you take this away from this video. I want you to walk up to first girl you see through the day. So none of these are you know, I'm out to the next approach or, you know I need a cup of coffee before I do my approaches or a need to do some exercise, there’s also, you know deep alpha and again breathing, none of that crap because that doesn't work. I don't believe that stuff works. You need to approach the first girl you see to no excuses, no excuses at all. Approach her immediately. Even if you have nothing to say, approach her. It's much better to do the approach and fail than to not do the approach at all; to walk up to her. Now this is what I would say, ‘hi there, how are you going? I just you know, this may sound a little strange, a little random but I just noticed you and I have to come over and say hi, how are you going? I'm Alex. I know again, I know this is strange but it's very rarely to see a stunning girl like you, walk down the street without you know, there's no guys hanging around you, what's going on? Usually you have like a five guy entourage. So what’s the story? What's your name?’ ‘Emily.’ Very nice to meet you Emily. So what have you—apart from looks. Notice a smile, I'm being playful. This is a sort of what are you going for apart from your looks. I'm not being contracending I'm not being arrogant. I'm being playful and I'm being funny. It's a cocky funny bottom line that I’m saying, what are you going for apart from your looks and a smile and this works wonders because you can practically take this, write that down, take this. When you go out tomorrow during the day, give this a try it will work, it will stop women because it never happens. No guy does this during the day. No guys would walk up to and confidently compliment a girl at in through a daylight and ask her name and introduce himself. No guy dose this. They just don’t have the confidence to do this but you can. So the next thing, you need something to follow up after that. You can use a number of things. I usually personally use a story. I could say something like, you know it’s very strange I'm actually looking for a costume shop. I’ve been searching up and down the street for the last hour and I'm trying to find this costume shop. I’ve got a party tonight. One of my friends from out of town, he’s an—He's having a pirate costume party. So I’m going to have a find a costume shop. Actually, let me ask you, what's your favorite, I don’t know, are a you a fan of Hook or Sinbad or Pirates of the Caribbean, who’s your favorite character?’ So again, I'm going back into the playful mode I'm being playful with her and we're playing games. I’m testing her a little bit. I'm kind of putting her on the spot and keep this in mind, no guy does this. No guy has the confidence to immediately go into rapport within the first three minutes of the conversation but if you can do this, if you can practice exactly what I’ve said in a very similar tonality and smile in a playful way, you will pull this off. I hope this video has helped you. Most importantly, do go out and give this a try. I have had heaps of success stories, heaps of emails from guys all around the world who had actually watched some of my pick up videos and they’ve gone there and really give this a try, really give them a shot. Some guys get into a relationships, they get girlfriends, some guys get exceptionally better at approaching women during the day and having lasting conversations. Some guys get less flakes when you can go out and get the phone number and actually call the girls, actually answer, they are having a great rapport. Give this a try, go out tomorrow and let me know how it does. My name is Alex and for more videos, just like this one, head over to succeedatdating.com. See you later.