Francisco: Hi! This is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com and we are back her Phoebe I am asking here some questions about dating because she is a girl and guys need to hear what she has to see , right.
Phoebe: Yes.
Francisco: So we were talking about earlier about turn off, you mentioned that that of guys often project this the sense fear and desperation and you just mentioned he idea of humor. Tell me more about that.
Phoebe: Yes, I just thought it is quite weird actually because you would think that it would be quite obvious to have a good sense of humor if you go out on a date with somebody because that is obviously going to make this the date more pleasure. But to be honest and there is a guys though I think look as so nervous and stress about this no perform then let us put enough that cannot relax. And one thing that every woman on the planet petty much says it is a sense of humor. Always gets the girl always. And it is like, it is one of the thing that men forget all the time, and sometimes they laugh at themselves and be able to relax and joke and stuff not like have. I have just look for this joke working out for ,men memorize a few joke so I am going to tell you them now and I hope lack kind of situation. It is more like you know just been able to laugh at themselves and just, if you do make a mistake it is not like all that is it. I made a mistake she is never going to see me again, be all serious, and stuff. Right, it is amazing how many guys forget and it is so simple to have a sense of humor. Just relax and be yourself.
Francisco: Yes, okay. Well that is an essential one. Do you prefer actually going on dates, and being a one on one with the man or you prefer usually being just describing with some of your girlfriends, and interacting in a freeway like a network dating. What is your approach I mean because if you have the choice you have the choice on one evening between being just with one guy or being just like that for you in a club What do you prefer?
Phoebe: That depends because it depends on the guy with the one guys amazing then it is like if you are in a club with lots of people because it has that type of energy. But I like to be the group social stuff because you have more freedom and you can go about and do what you want to do. But those two situations situation with definite it is depends on the people that you wave rather the situation because if a guy is captivating enough you do not care who else is around you. It is like, this is good one to one. It is what but if obviously, if he is not and it is boring and you saw a girl to the toilet do not comeback. And some people do then it is like you known then who wants does not work but it will definitely depend on the guy.
Francisco: Another question I have for you is would you go on a date with the guy if you are not interesting in dating him long term will you just pull the fund of having a date it is something that you do usually?
Phoebe: Not really, because why do I am very full straight full on bloom. And I say obviously this is, I think the guys is looking like he thinks it is a date I going to make it clear that it is not, which usually the ways of time anyway because as long you have got and he is mine that he hates. He hates to him but as long as I stay to that is not then I will still to come very social and I like to get o know people and we will see on that date you could find somebody else. You will never so have other half to make it clear but it is not one of those kinds of dates
Francisco: Yes, okay and you are lucky in the UK right. You mentioned you have been spending sometime in Spain do you see differences between on how guys behave over there in Spain compared with.
Phoebe: Yes, definitely, Spanish guys is lot more casual and relax. If you go over group of Spanish guys and it is cool because they I see females as friends, while a British guys just see females as targets. They would not even dream of having a female friends or just go in out with female friend. That if you saw a friend you have a behave will be a gay guy because he is be like not would crack on to you anything like that but in Spain the coach is different because many woman makes in social and a very social so it is formal fun over there lot less for sure and stuff. But here if you step out with the guy on a date it is a date. If you know what I mean.
Francisco: Okay, it is commitment.
Phoebe: Yes, you halfway down the aisle, basically.
Francisco: So that is pretty scared you right?
Phoebe: Yes, it so right.
Francisco: So did you have any read a lot where you get your experiences with dating lately like when we do not have much time on this one. Maybe I work of this question or the next recording. Okay. If you a guy and listening to that I mean I love this advice that she is giving you. I mean everything that she is saying I know it already of course you know. I am the coach here. I am supposed to know these things. No seriously that is great I want to thank you for contributing and sharing a lot with you.
Phoebe: You are welcome.
Francisco: And if you are a man and you are listening to that there are more audios or videos coming soon and so stay tune and you can go back to the site vitalcoaching.com/Dating ForMan.htm these is where that this program for man in located. You can down load everything from on that page. Okay take care and have a great day, bye-bye.
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