Sex Tips - Your First Time
Justine Sane: Hi, this is Justin Sane with another sex tip. We have been getting quite a few e-mails and we didn’t quite realize how many young people are actually watching our shows. And we have heard you and this show is all about what to do if you are still holding your V-card. I think the best way to go about this episode would be to go through and answer a few of the most common questions we have been getting. So let us get started. First off, what is virginity? Typically, a virgin is someone who has never had sexual intercourse before. However, most of the time, people have completely different ideas about what losing your virginity means. Some think of it as having heterosexual intercourse for the first time. Others include any sort of sex, including the anal, gay, lesbian, oral sex for the first times. Weird huh? The next question, does having oral sex, getting fingered, doing anal, giving a hand job, et cetera count as losing your virginity? This is not really a question and everyone seems to have their own opinions. Even if you don’t personally count any of these things, they can still transmit STDs and no matter what you consider as still being a virgin, the most important thing is to make sure you are ready before you do anything sexual. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin and you should not feel like you have to rush into losing your virginity. Question number three, my boyfriend or girlfriend is not a virgin but I am, what do I do? Don’t let it get to you. Being a good lover is about sensitivity, not experience, you have the advantage of not having the pressure being there first and they are more experienced. This is a good thing, because your partner will know what to expect because they have experienced it too. Now question four, I am worried that I will look inexperienced if I admit that I am a virgin. So I will just keep it to myself. No, you have to tell your partner. Let them know that you have never been with anyone else. There is nothing about or embarrassing about saying “I am a virgin” and if you are close enough to someone who is thinking about having sex with them, you are close enough to be honest with them. If they know that it is your first time, your partner will go easy on you. Alright, question five, am I ready? If you are asking this question, then you are probably not ready. Do not let your friends pressure you. Just because other people are saying that they have had sex it doesn’t mean that they have actually done it. People talk, and talk, and talk. You have no real way of knowing that anything they are saying is even true. Make sure you are ready or your partner is ready before you try anything sexual. Question six, will either of us have an orgasm? It is not secret that first time sex has a reputation from about being too pleasurable really. Some couple say that on the first time they enjoyed it and some say that they did not enjoy it at all. Most of the time you don’t have an orgasm the first time you have sex. It is a very individual thing. The best advice I can give is don’t expect too much from your first time. And just like anything else in life, it takes a lot of time to learn about your body and your partner’s body. Okay, so last and final question, and probably the most common one actually, will it hurt? Well, yes. Many girls and guys worry that it will hurt the first time they have sex. The truth is it can hurt and some girls do bleed, not because of any cutting or rubbing or anything it is because a girl has what is called the hymen and that breaks the first time she has sex. Now, I just want to leave you with one last thing and that is take precautions. If you are mature enough to be thinking about having sex, you are mature enough to discuss condoms. Also you don’t want to be that guy or girl that proves all the sex education teacher is right and end up getting pregnant on your first try. And it is perfectly fine to ask your partner when the last time they were tested and how many people they have slept with sex. So that being said, if you are going to try sex for the first time make sure it is fun. Don’t let stress get to you and make sure you are ready and please be safe. So that is it for this edition of sex tips. E-mail me any questions that you have at Justine@entercourse.tv Thanks very much.