Sex During Pregnancy – What’s His Problems?
Male 1: Fooling over from our little blog entry yesterday which we focused on sex through the conception.
Male 2: Important.
Male 1: Today we thought we’d talk about sex during pregnancy and the big question is, “What is his problem?”
Male 2: There’s a whole list that I can think of but what we’ve actually done is narrow it done to 8 points that we think you need to be aware of so you can manage this with your partner in a proactive fashion.
Male 1: Yes. Look, a lot of girls have told us you know they felt that their partner didn’t want to have sex with them in later stages of pregnancy because that will be evil. That feels fad or whatever. But the reality is—I think that’s the case because of all the dads we’ve interviewed around the world, just about all of them tell us that they think their pregnant wife is—
Male 2: At no time of that being more turned on.
Male 1: Not about more turned on, but I they think she’s beautiful.
Male 2: That’s what they tell me.
Male 1: So the question is, “What is their problem?” And let’s have a look at some very, very typical issues that made first. Now it’s a little bit of a cliché but staggeringly enough it is actually true that some men are genuinely scared that by having intercourse with their partner which is pregnant that they are going to tap the baby on the head.
Male 2: Yes. Look a number of the dads that we spoke to in our Being Dad DVD’s—
Male 1: This is one of them calling now.
Male 2: Said this just coming through now online to—said that they were actually concerned of tapping the baby on the head. What we also found is that the other dads in the groups got a lot of humor from this very quickly and said, “Mate, don’t worry about it. You’re not the big.”
Male 1: And look, I mean, as you probably know that there is obviously a mucous plug that you know in the cervix there so you’d have to get pass that. Now obviously we don’t—
Male 2: John Holmes cannot get pass that.
Male 1: We don’t want to be telling our husbands if got a mucous plug in our cervix.
Male 2: That’s a very good point.
Male 1: I think we just want to let him know that hardcore, it’s really not a problem. Or you can give him a cup of being dad because in that—our sex experts tells him more about it.
Moving at the next, a lot of guys feel that by having sex with a pregnant woman that they’re in fact having sex with someone else in the room. And by someone else I mean a little person like a child and for some reason that just doesn’t feel right.
Male 2: Yes. It is definitely something that a number of dads that we’ve spoken to have said that they’ve had issue for it.
Male 1: If Jessica Simpson was in the room, it probably wouldn’t be a problem. But if there is a little kid floating around I think it’s reasonable to—
Male 2: To understand and assume that there would be some issues there.
Male 1: I’m not compromising women who feel like that but I guess that’s because they got the baby on board but anyway, I’m moving on the next one.
It’s a girl, even—for a lot of guys that we’ve spoken to who knew that they were having a daughter or the girl growing inside of their wife.
Male 2: It’s quite funny isn’t it that most of the guys that knew they were having son didn’t have this issue, specifically guys that knew that they were having a daughter felt an awkward sense when they’re with their wife. It’s something you can only resolve I think by talking to your partner about it.
Male 1: I think that it is interesting that point and we’d probably have to get some sort psychologist onto that as to what the issue is there. But anyway, we’ll move on, guys are pretty weird, we are strange animals. Now logistics, I think, you know especially we’re talking the latest age. I think for a lot dads or a lot of guys, they’re a little bit unsure of what positions are okay and then you know there’s a big belly there and how do I get in?
Male 2: In my mind this is no different to experimenting when you’ve just first met your partner and you're having sex for the very first time. It’s absolutely no different. It’s a chance to experiment and have a little bit to play around and found out what works for both of you.
Male 1: And look, there are lots of positions that obviously work and work well in girls. I’m sure you’ve probably been on other websites and understand them so—
Male 2: Experimentation is the key. I think he’s seen it.
Male 1: Perhaps if you—little stick, like diagrams, so that the man—you know in his lunch box and it might go a long way.
Male 2: I agree.
Male 1: Now, another important point is he may be scared that he’s going to hurt you. We’ve talked about hurting the baby and also hurting you and you know there needs to be I think a discussion with him about what is okay and what isn’t. For a lot of dads, I don’t understand it, really to—you know that the key areas are, you can have sex without putting a pressure on the stomach and the breast, the most top of areas. And that’s where you can come in and you know maybe introduce things, lots of pillows and different positions—
Male 2: Exactly right.
Male 1: Rolls on wheel from the previous point, I think?
Male 2: Correct, so it’s just really for you to sit down with him and explain that if the position is right, there's absolutely no chance that he’s going to be hurting you or the baby.
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