Jennifer: Dear, Dan and Jennifer fantasize about being a prostitute having sex with strangers and being naughty. You love that word naughty.
Dan: Oh! Yeah naughty girls. Guys hold on, it's not what it seems. Hold on.
Jennifer: Having to do what the other person wants and even getting paid for it. I am looking for ways to incorporate this fantasy into my sex life with my husband, but I don't think he is very comfortable with the idea of being the dominant partner.
Dan: Keyword.
Jennifer: Should I workout the whole scenario and maybe give him like a gift or is it better to ease him to something like that? How can I go about it so that I don't feel embraced about it and my husband will find it hot. Thanks for the advise, Alice.
Dan: Alice is very bad, bad, bad girl.
Jennifer: Bad girl.
Dan: I love bad girls. Oh! Man I may need a break again. Okay.
Jennifer: Okay look we all have our kinks.
Dan: And it's all good.
Jennifer: There is nothing wrong except for if you haven't seen the donkey video you will and that what's our box, okay, a consenting adults.
Dan: Not animals, not children who are unable of giving informal consent.
Jennifer: Their brain just don't work. So consenting adults have fun. So don't feel weird about it. I think your fantasy is hot. That's just my opinion obviously Dan does too. That's our box we are comfortable with that kind of stuff. It's okay.
Dan: But I think that there is something underneath there is she is very tied into the prostitute thing, because that's her perception but I think she will discover some interesting thing when she realize it.
Jennifer: She has to be a dirty girl.
Dan: She has to be a bad dirty girl. Man! I may need a break, but really what she is talking about is a what that the natural submission for that or what naturally submissive?
Jennifer: I think you were saying submissively inclined. Is that the word?
Dan: The she maybe submissively inclined and she is looking for dominant partner in their relationship.
Jennifer: Well, she has got a partner.
Dan: Yeah, she is looking for someone to fill that role. She is hoping, if he will, but this is one of those things and talk about sexual compatibility is the guy dominantly inclined I guess that's a word and is he inclined that way, because you can't have two submissive people together.
Jennifer: No, you can't.
Dan: But you can have lots of things, but it's not like the partnership.
Jennifer: That's where you got to start thinking about part time help.
Dan: Outsourcing.
Jennifer: Outsourcing.
Dan: Anyway.
Jennifer: So, here is the thing you got to take it slow with them I don't like the idea of just dropping this on him, if he doesn't know anything about it.
Dan: That's not the most better.
Jennifer: If he has never indicated that he has fantasy of you being a prostitute or you being submissive to him then you could make both of you feel awkward and uncomfortable. So the first thing I would do is kind of hint around that, and hint around. What you think?
Dan: I think you can ease him to so many these thing like the guy with the shoe fetish and the guy with the cross dressing whatever. You don't want to have a sit down talk with your partner about this, because we are all too immature as a society to do stuff like that.
Jennifer: But maybe you know you could hint around, hey! I am your bad girl or something like that and see if he takes it.
Dan: See how receipted he is to the concept of you being more submissive --
Jennifer: Then he would like to see you crawl across the floor. I mean just -- sorry -- just little things. They come along the submissive angle, things that he might like right to feel his temperature per se.
Dan: And as for finding the things that you will enjoy pursue the submission thing, pursue the BDSM stuff and just do some reading around and you will find some interesting things.
Jennifer: Then you can try some role-play and share, you can share this fantasy with him. There is nothing wrong Dan and I have this thing, we have to talked about that in the long time. We have used it in the long time. But we have this concept of a fantasy box right. Well, you write down your fantasy and you both agree ahead of time right but you that you are willing to do it and you are willing to try out each other's fantasy but you write down what you would like to try and you put it in the box.
Dan: And you have the special box, the little, your physical box.
Jennifer: Yeah it's kind of a physical box and you have just put them in there and you agree you know what, hey! Saturdays are Fantasy Box night and you pull one out. Now some of these things take preparation time and stuff like that so you may pull it out ahead of time and whatever.
Dan: Pull it out on Friday or Sunday morning.
Jennifer: Or whatever but it's just a great way to explore each other's boundaries and you can try things yeah.
Dan: And to come out with the fantasies right.
Jennifer: Yeah, so many people are afraid of getting rejected in trying new things, but everybody has got their secret fantasies and if you would just bring them out in the open then everybody is going to have more fun.
Dan: You are more excited when you are alone and in the dark. You will let your partner help with it.
Jennifer: Yeah, wouldn't you like your partner to be able to help you with that?
Dan: Yeah, really helping hand with the right time. Isn't that? Right?
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