No text or picture Add-ons were added yet. How sad!
Matt: Hey everybody, Matt and Tamsen here with Ask your Tango answering your love questions.
Tamsen: All right today this question comes from Forever Yours. Your love brief, devastated, scared, sad and worried and I understand that. The question is my husband and I are considering separation to see if he really wants a divorce. I’ve told him I can never be with him again if he was having sex with others during our time apart. Am I crazy? I don’t want to lose him but I know if I love him I have to set him free to see if he really does love me.
This is so difficult and I feel your pain. I’m sorry you’re going through it first of all.
Matt: I’ve actually been in that situation. I was once married and divorced and it was all my fault and my wife actually said the exact same thing to me. She said “You know what you have to find out if you like this other woman.” There was another woman involved. I was honest. I told her what my feelings were and she did set me free and three months later after I found out that this woman wasn’t right for me I wanted to come back to my wife and of course my wife did not take me back which in the end was good until I found Tamsem. So let me talk from experience, I really think you that you need to be as strong as you can possibly can be and let him go and not worry about what’s not going to happen when he’s not around. If he comes back, then he’s yours if he doesn’t, he never was.
Tamsen: I’m glad that you set some boundaries because it’s important that you are honest about it. I mean if he is with somebody else during your time apart, no you’re not crazy, there’s nothing wrong with not want to be with somebody like that. There is a big trust broken.
Matt: And don’t let him have his cake and eat it too. If he’s going to do that in your time of separation then he’s obviously made the choice of what he wants to do with your relationship.
Tamsen: Matt I think you’re very, very brave so you should add that to your love brief because you're going through a lot right now. All right be sure to let us know what happens. This is Matt and Tamsen with YourTango.com
Matt: Got a question you’d like answered?
Tamsen: Visit YourTango.com/pleasures.
Transcription by:
Scribe4you Transcription Services