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Jennifer: Are you ready?
Dan: I will just check my penis.[laughter] my microphone. [laughter] it is on.
Jennifer: 00:32 is good for you 00:36 [laughter ]
Dan: My 00:34 slip somebody help. [laughter]
Jennifer: Okay it is on---okay it will be later---Hey this question is from Samantha in Yuganda. Dear Dan and Jennifer my husband got quite close to his client. They have been eventually become attracted to each other and all forbe [ph] as became close socially. Eventually we began to talk about the swap. So be all women in the short holiday and the two of them were very close in come to with each other but her husband and I work. It just got very uncomfortable. Nothing happen between any of the couples but our marriage is something affected ever since. My husband is so close to her and each day my emotions drive me crazy. We also go out as friends but when they are okay with it another damn hurt. I feel like he is putting her before me. I felt that her husband also goes through what I am going through. Its destroying me what should I do?
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Dan: Ouch--- that is good as long as when 01:22 the two. They I am not even go in 01:37 yes 01:38---when swing goes bad, even though nobody had sex with anybody else.
Jennifer: It is the same old story. But it is just---nobody parts.
Dan: It seems so 01:44 yes--- because you keep hanging out together although it is this thing that they are all feeling weird about not working out. Still nobody is having sex. And there is still 01:55 yes yes--- okay. Seems like a fun game at this point okay.
Jennifer: Oh do you want to see that?
Dan: Jealousy ultimately I think there is, is it a jealous yes sure. I think this is where it is coming down to. And it sounds to me like this may I have been your first potentials repent [ph] that [voice overlap]. [laughter].
Jennifer: No more my 02:15 for you.
Dan: Swinging or spells swapping do [ph]. Experience is this your first time do you guys have try it something like that? Have you talk about it? And it seems like a underlying jealousy issue.
Jennifer: Yes and my fears this is of zero one and only encounter because it went so wrong you know? You got to talk to your husband I mean we say this as where I have said it a million times. Talk to him [voice overlap] talk to him, tell him how are your feeling? You know tell him when I am okay and then the next day I am like freaking out thinking that you are putting her before me. Okay? Tell him that. Be honest with each other. I mean so many people do not do that. And the one thing I going to cushion you on because you know this buster ph] for so long but it causing you all this grief okay, and you are assuming it is causing her husband 03:03 talk to them about it. You say you still go out you know that is the one thing with a lot people do okay. Whether it be a first day but the you know too long two couple or one on one couple or two on two couple or whatever they go out something happen or it does not and then nobody talks afterward. It gets weird. Okay do not let it get it any weird or gone it already has. You got talk to at least your husband that is the relationship that really matters.
And one thing that we tell everybody when you are talking to him keep it about your feelings. Do not say when you did this with her and you did that with her and you said that to her…
Dan: It is really challenging but you can keep it from using what is wrong you cannot get any sentence or the word you. [Voice overlap] yes and do not point like this.[laughter]It is very accusatory--- 03:48.
Jennifer: So you see girls cannot get rid of. Yours cannot get rid of and it is just going to be a fight. Tell him I am afraid, I feel scared, I feel hurt. He cannot argue with that. Nobody can argue with your feelings.
Dan: I know I do not.
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