The Pregnancy Show - Anxiety, Part 1

Kendall: Good Morning. We're back. Nina: Good Morning. We're back. Kendall: And we're talking about -- Nina: Pregnancy and anxiety Kendall, and you know what Kendall, we can talk about this for a long, long time because we're anxious people and -- Kendall: I am anxious. I have just -- Well, I think always of myself as neurotic. It's a much more sophisticated. Nina: Well, your husband calls you neurotic. I am anxious only really when I am pregnant because it is the fear of the unknown, the fear of what if, you have a human being inside, you cannot see what's going on. You're not privy to what's happening inside. So many things can and do go wrong unfortunately but a lot of time, most of the time it goes wrong. We don't mean to scare you. Shall we start over? Don't get scared. No. Yes. Yes. Kendall: Wait. Things do go wrong. Nina: Go wrong. Kendall: But thank goodness. Nina: But under doctor's care, good care, you do the test, you do the ultrasounds, you do the blood work. You do all these things and everything should go very well for the most part. Kendall: For the most part, fortunately things do go well. Nina: But what they're saying here, it is normal for you to be anxious when you're pregnant because you worry about whether the baby is healthy, whether the baby is eating, whether -- and you worry mostly about giving birth. Kendall: If you don't feel it moved and it moved -- I worried about that a lot of time. That's funny. It was moving for the last three days, it's not. Nina: Right. Right. No. Yeah. You really do. You're always conscious of when it's moving. Kendall: Yeah. Nina: Like you're also so worried about giving birth, about the pain and how does a little opening all of a sudden accommodates a large head and that was my biggest fear because I was a very small, skinny person as this first child that I gave birth - I was about 95 pounds, I told you that -- and I gave only about 25 pounds which was all the baby weight. And I kept thinking, I am having a nightmare, that's huge because the doctor was warning me, the baby is going to be over 8 1/2 pounds and I was already at 3 and - I was two or three weeks earlier when he told me that so if the baby is 8 1/2 pounds at that stage, imagine when I am fully ready to give birth, so I was so anxious, but no one really explained me about dilation and how that works and half. Kendall: How did you miss that? Nina: Yeah. You know I was young. I was 20 and so on and so forth. Kendall: You have books. There are books. You should read them. I gave a birth to a small child. I do have to say that the first time you give birth, your body can't possibly be prepared because it has never done this before. Nina: No. Kendall: So the thing that happens the first time at least in my experience it will never happen again. Nina: Yeah. Well, you got to make sure you got a really good understanding sensitive doctor, because my doctor, will remain nameless. Kendall: I only had that for one of mine. Nina: What they do is they do the internal to see if you're dilated and he came to me and I was all of 20 and I wasn't used to having children and I never had, it's my first baby, he checked me internally and he goes, oh! You're only about 4 centimeters and I winced. And he looked at me with this rage in his face and he goes why you're wincing? Stop acting like a baby. You're having a baby. And I was so taken aback, I was like, oh! My God. So the first thing you got to do, get a doctor with very wonderful bedside manners. Kendall: Hold on. Do that, but you're still when the time comes to give birth, your doctor might not be there. I gave birth the second time, my doctor didn't make it there because I am very efficient. Nina: And they get a good understanding -- find one. Well, friends, take them all in. I will take you Kendall, we will have a party. But you know what -- God knows, this is a very scary thing you are going through and especially the first child. If you don't know what's happening to your body and it's all new and traumatizing. Kendall: Whatever. I am more practical. They are coming out, for years they've been coming out, for generations, for millenniums, millenia, they've been coming out, they come out. Nina: Yeah. Anyways, we'll be right back and talk more about this topic in just a moment.