The Pregnancy Show - Anxiety, Part 3

Kendall: Hello we are back we are whipping ourselves into an anxious stage, because we are reading people who are anxious,-- Nina: We are going to whip up all the details. Kendall: Casey here, I mean I can see why she'd be anxious. She is suffered from severe anxiety after a miscarriage, well, she was put on medication to help, oh complicating factor, got pregnant, was able to calm down somehow. Now I am 24 weeks along and I have noticed my anxiety returning. Nina: 24 weeks is still too early - Kendall: She can't catch her breath but hold on, you know what you need -- drugs are always a solution, but I am a one point during this anxious phase in my life. Exercise - Nina: Exercise is great. Kendall: I took a class and learned relaxation therapy, and I have to tell you it was breathing techniques, and visualization in your head, and - Nina: Meditation and that's amazing. Kendall: It was remarkable, and you just don't want to be taking drug if you can help it when you are 24 weeks pregnant. Nina: Yeah she should do that. I mean the truth she is too early to get anxious. I really got anxious when I was in the last two weeks - Kendall: But she is, she is. Nina: You know the last weeks before giving birth and that's the fear giving birth and the pain that's involved. Kendall: Okay, she cannot reduce, because she had a miscarriage. Nina: Okay at this point a 24 weeks and the doctors have told her she is fine, the baby has passed a crucial 12 week stage. So she is sailing right along and she should be fine until the end. So there is no reason to worry -- Kendall: Keep an eye on things. Nina: But there is no rhyme or reason to this. It is something you can't control it, it just happens and when you are anxious you are anxious. Kendall: When I miscarried the first time before I had my first baby I just lay there making a list in my head of everybody else I knew who was pregnant, going I don't know, I was healthy, I eat well, I did this, why do they look okay. Nina: Kendall, I swear I cried for a week nonstop, it just what happen I would be the in the middle of the store, food store and just a geyser of tears, and it's the grieving process and it's normal, and it's healthy, better get it out. So you can mentally prepare for the next pregnancy. Kendall: I found it just very strange like I went in to my doctors office pregnant for my check up and came out - Nina: Is that what happened. Kendall: And you know what she was being kind it does not appear to be viable and what I heard was there was a chance. Nina: Yes there is always a hope, you see that's the false hope that's not good either. Kendall: Right. Nina: You need to have it right out on the table. Kendall: Right, that took me another two hours before I said to my husband we are not having a baby, right and he had to go correct we are not having a baby. Nina: Now this is first miscarriage before the other case come along. Kendall: Before the other - Nina: That's terrible. Kendall: And that's unnerving because then you start to wonder can you. Nina: Right is there something wrong with me. Kendall: Yes, is that, no ones is going to tell you it's sad, but try to find a way the anxiety obviously for you is going to come, try to find a way to deal with it without drugs. Nina: Well you know what happens a lot of people as soon as they have their miscarriage they just want to have another one. So immediately after you are given a clean belt from your doctor, go right ahead and start working on the other one. Kendall: But I spent the rest of time after that with my head between my legs in the toilet, like I became like the queen of inspecting my own like body fluids, like ooh. I don't know you check every time, you wipe -- you are looking to see right from the mucus changes, when you are ready to -- when you are fertile. I became obsessed with my going in bathroom and check. Nina: I did ovulation, so we have problems getting pregnant. So I was doing ovulation thermometer temperature -- Kendall: Why do you say we had problems getting, why it can't be his fault? Why is it always the women's fault, why do people say we are pregnant. Yes because he is lose 50% of chance Nina: No he is 50% contributor to this whole scenario. So if there is a problem with him - Kendall: Any guy can drop by, lease sperm go. I do not see this is -- Nina: What if it is bad sperm or something who knows. So they have it. So you got have the husband's checked out just as much as the women. Kendall: We are pregnant, you are pregnant we are having a baby correct but you are pregnant. Trust me crazy, drives me crazy. Nina: Yes anyway, but alright so we will right back in moment thank you.