The Pregnancy Show - Anxiety, Part 4

Kendall: We are back. Nina: We are talking about anxiety and here is a letter from Rachel. Rachel is being very emotional and upset throughout her pregnancy. She feels that something doesn't seem right and the happiest part of your life is right now, when you're pregnant and she is so worried about dying at the birth. So she wants to know has anyone else thought of being dead? Kendall: Or has anybody else died at birth, if they could tell us? Nina: You know what now that we are in this day and age, where so many things are advanced, and we have so many technological aids to help us with problems that crop up during the pregnancy and labor, this should not even be -- I mean shouldn't have to be -- Kendall: But she must have some reference basically -- my grandmother died in childbirth. My mother's mother died in childbirth. Nina: Oh! My goodness. Are you kidding? Oh that was sad -- Kendall: But, I can't tell you how it was -- my mother, that would upset her. That was a very long time ago. Nina: Yeah, very long time. Kendall: With that in mind - Nina: I don't think that's something that should be foremost in her brain. She should be thinking about -- not dying. Kendall: But it is. Nina: Yeah, and she is worried about it, she is scared. Kendall: You got to talk to somebody - you have to do some research yourself and find out what the chances are because -- Nina: Oh! Scary. Kendall: Why? Nina: I think she should talk to a doctor. Kendall: Talk to your doctor. Nina: And he should -- he will help - he will calm her down. Kendall: Now if you know somebody who has unfortunately died in child birth, I mean no one's argument-- it's tragic. Nina: Well, Kendall -- Kendall: But find out why, Nina: My mother-in-law had 13 kids and she gave birth on the couch in her house with no doctor present, a midwife and if something did go wrong which it did, she had twins and one of them died immediately after birth, a few hours after birth, there's a situation, the scenario there is not very helpful. Kendall: She wasn't in a rice paddy. Nina: She was in on the couch and that's where she had my husband and so on and so forth. I am saying now that you're in a hospital situation, you've got all the tools there to resuscitate a child that's not breathing, they have the neonatal units in case, you have a premature baby. They have doctors on staff if there is a problem that they can't deal with, they call immediately another doctor that can help if it's a lung problem or a heart problem or anything like this. They have so many people on staff to help you at any moment's notice, so I don't think that she should worry too much about it. Kendall: But if is worried, she is a kind of woman who has to -- you have to give birth in a hospital. Nina: Take a tour of your hospital. And you can do that Kendall. Kendall: Exactly, don't just accept that you heard something from somebody, find out for yourself, get some knowledge. Knowledge is power. Nina: Yeah, but take a tour of your hospital because what they do is, they show you the labor room, they show you the delivery room, they show you all the people running around and that gives you a former self-confidence to give you some satisfaction on, look, in case something goes wrong, tons of people out there that they can call. Good. So checkout your hospital, find out about the statistics of deaths. Kendall: I think it's -- I don't know. Nina: If that's related to - about me I would want to know because even it -- Kendall: I just need the chance. Nina: I would be frightened. But anyway -- Kendall: It's far better than winding out there with a 90% chance, yeah. I do. I do. Nina: Okay good. Kendall: Reema. Reema says Nina : Hi Reema- Kendall: She cries all the time. She feels like crying. I feel like crying. Nina: Well, a lot of people feel like crying. Kendall: But I still have many days I feel like crying. Do you think having them is going to make you cry, wait till you raise them? Okay! Loss of appetite. Nina: Yeah. It's like - Kendall: Hold on. Nina: But she can. Kendall: Loss of appetite is there but she wants to eat so much in vain. Nina: Interesting. Kendall: Her body is lethargic. Nina: She is lethargic. Interesting. Kendall: But don't get depressed, that happens. Nina: Yeah. Kendall: When I was pregnant with my second child, I would go to work everyday. I would come home, lie on the sofa like a beach whale and tell my little guy just play besides me. Nina: And they're hungry and they want to eat and you're like mama can't feed you honey. Mama can't -- Kendall: Come on you two, you don't know how to make scrambled eggs, what's wrong with you? Nina: Well listen, she is hungry but she can't eat, and I'll tell you why because remember, the amount of space now that you have for your organs, now have your spleen, and you have your kidneys and you have -- Kendall: And they are all crushed up. Nina: Everything is nicely organized. When you're pregnant, everything is pushed to the side. So everything is squished and your stomach is not working as well, your intestines are not working as well. Kendall: All the things she is feeling are the things that occur during pregnancy. Nina: Normal. Normal. Kendall: Don't be anxious. Nina: Now you're going to be tired and if you are tired -- Kendall: And sit, if you want to sit. And if someone came to tell them, get out of that chair, I need it. Nina: Get out of the chair and watch opera, enjoy this time -- you're entitled to feel lethargic, it is your time to feel lethargic. Kendall: But you want to be empowered, go get on a bus and look for a bus where somebody sitting in the front seat, and then get on the bus, stand in front of them and say -- Nina: Really. Kendall: No. Just to entertain yourself. Nina: Oh! Really? Kendall: Yeah. Get on a bus and say, get out, get out of that chair. Nina: Go to the mall. If you go to a mall and have all people come over and pat your belly -- enjoy the attention. Kendall: It's all good. Nina: It's all good, we will be right back.