The Pregnancy Show - Divorce

Nina: Okay, guys. We are back and now we have a very touchy feeling subject. It’s called “Being pregnant and wanting a divorce.” So this is a big, big problem in the States. As far as—well, we have Britney, who had just had her second baby and sent her husband an SMS and told him bye-bye. So— Kendall: You’ve got to love the SMS. Nina: Good for her though. You know what good for her. This guy is good to getting everybody pregnant. They made a joke on the American Musical Arts about him last night that if they did put him in the water, he’d get a school of fish pregnant. I mean, his ex-wife Shar, she was praying shit. As a matter of fact, she was pregnant with her child when he had an affair with Britney and she gave birth along so this is a very appropriate subject right here because she was dumped— Kendall: Maybe we should have—federal line on as a guest. Nina: Well, he was in FedExed at that time, now he’s out of time and our history and Britney just dumped him so good for you Britney. You know what, a smart girl, I hope her career gets back on track and this—but this is— Kendall: I hope she changes her hair black to blonde because I’m not—. Nina: She is. She’s back. She was—she’s all blonde now. Okay, this is from Susan, a pregnant who wants a divorce. I am pregnant and this will be my second child with my husband. I am not in love anymore and want a divorce. The baby will be here in about a month. I’m planning to wait at least six months after the baby is born to break the news to my husband. My best friend knows that I’m planning to tell him and she keeps pushing me to tell him now. I think with the baby coming so soon would be a terrible time to tell my husband. Guy, would you rather have your wife tell you right before the baby is born or six months after? Nina: I think— Kendall: It depends if he’s going to think it’s good news or bad news. Nina: I think she should tell him right away because if the baby is born and the husband starts to bond with that baby and she gets full custody or visitation rights with him, I think it’s a terrible thing to make the husband love that baby. Get used to having the baby thinking that all is well in his corner of the world and all these in six months down the road, I want a divorce. If she doesn’t love him anymore, tell him that— Kendall: But is he going to bond— Nina: Okay, tell it after. Kendall: With his baby less because if he’s going to bond with his baby less because he knows he’s getting a divorce, he’s probably—I can’t see why she wants to divorce him. It’s still his child. Nina: But I feel that it would be cruel on his—on her part to him, to her husband. If she tells her husband six months later, if she knew now what she’s going to know then and she doesn’t tell him for six months, she’s deleting, she’s deluding him to thinking that all is well, it’s not right. If you feel that the marriage is over and you don’t love your husband anymore, and you know about it, fine, wait a month. She’s a month before giving birth. Kendall: Right. Nina: Wait a month. Kendall: All right, fair enough. Nina: Let him be there for the—because it’s very devastating for you to get that kind of news. Have the baby but then break it off. If you don’t love the guy, let him go. Let him decide what they’re going to do with the baby. I feel like you know— Kendall: But after having a baby, I don’t know like emotionally, you’re upside down. You’re all over the place, I don’t know if I would be in a good place, he might not even take her seriously if he doesn’t want to hear it, he might say, “Well, she’s in emotional wreck right now.” Nina: Or perhaps Susan should go and see a marriage counsel with her husband and bring back the love baby, come on! Kendall: Well— Nina: What in a thong! Shake your thing for your husband. Maybe the love will come back and the romance. Kendall: I don’t know, the thong thing doesn’t work for me. Nina: It works. Trust me, it works. Kendall: Really, we need more information. Why doesn’t she love him? Did he do something? Did she meet somebody? What happened? Nina: Susan, it’s not going to be like it was in your honeymoon stages, okay. When you married for X amount of time, the love changes. It gets off of the infatuation, crazy, hysterical love crush thing and it develops into a bond, it’s a one loving bond but it won’t be you know the same as before. Perhaps, she is still in love with you. Kendall: How can the baby might change her feelings? Nina: Or maybe she’s depressed now because she’s pregnant. Kendall: I know— Nina: And she’s depressed because of that. Kendall: We don’t have enough information. Nina: So go see a marriage counsel before you make any decision. Kendall: I agree. Nina: And try out. Come on Susan. Kendall: I can live with that. Nina: Yeah. Kendall: I can live with that. Nina: Okay, we’ll be right back. Kendall: We’ll be right back.