Nina: We are back, we are back, we are back. Before we get to any more letters we want to talk about something we were talking about during the break and that is, that a lot of people push off having kids because they want amass more money and they keep thinking okay, well next year, when I have this amount of cash, it will be the time. And then next year comes and it's still not enough and you still want more. You say okay, one more year, one more year, and before you turn around, you are 40 years old, you have never ever amassed all that cash you wanted to amass and all this time it's over and you are 40.
Kindall: You have got a bigger house, but then you got to pay for the things of a bigger house. You have got a newer car but it depreciated the minute you took it off the lot.
Nina: Does that bring you joy and happiness? Does that bring you all the feelings inside you that you are looking for?
Kindall: You can't live your life waiting for the best, for the good to come.
Nina: Do it now.
Kindall: Today is your day for whatever. Be thankful for today, have today, enjoy today.
Nina: Listen, when I had my baby at 20, what did I have? I was living in apartment. My husband was working. He was trying to get a degree in something. You make it work. You kind of make it work. You make do with what you have. You are so happy with what you have, you are starting off, you are young. You don't have these big aspirations. Later on in the life, people get most fooled and they find – with you, you had your own job and you were working for many years.
Kindall: I have got to tell you, when I had my first child and the first time my husband went back to work. I couldn't believe I was left at home with this thing.
Nina: What? He helped you? He stayed at home with while you had a baby?
Kindall: No, he stayed home for the better part of two weeks. I did not take care of the baby, I was 34. He has like baby knowledge. He had nieces, nephews, he had experience. I was like oh, my God, I am in the house with an alien. And I just called him at work 19 hours a day, the baby just went left. The baby’s eyes went right.
Nina: Oh what I did once. You know the Similac? The similac, when you get the concentrated similac and it comes -- well, you are supposed to poor the Similac powder and add the same amount of water and shake that thing up. So one day, my son is throwing up, stools, having problems in bowel movement, he was like a few months old. My husband goes, what did you do? What did you do? I said, I don't know. He came over from work. I didn't call him like you, 19 times a day. I was fine, I was great, I was on my own and I said, oops! I think I forgot to add the water to the formula, and I almost killed this child. I mean he was so sick.
Kindall: It's only funny now, because he is growing up and he looks funny to me.
Nina: Yes, don't sue me darling. You are fine, you are healthy, you are good. But the truth is --
Kindall: But if he gets the shakes.
Nina: But isn't it instinctive?
Kindall: It is instinctive.
Nina: I never called him. I never -- I handled it on my own. I tried figured it out.
Kindall: It was a neurotic mess. I had an alien; I was 34, I was used to the lifestyle that came with shopping.
Nina: Don’t -- can I do a – hold on Craig -- don't say, he is an alien.
Kindall: I love him.
Nina: Okay, good.
Kindall: But he has alien tendencies.
Nina: Okay, yeah. Alright so --
Kindall: But not just that, I was into a lifestyle that was totally me oriented; shop when I want, eat out when I want, do what I want, I could go to sleep --
Nina: I don't want to say it’s selfish existence. But you have been living alone for all these years.
Kindall: And drive in like a 100 miles an hour, I hit a brick wall and all of a sudden I came to my house without dressing Mr. Gumpy Poky.
Nina: Well, that's what I said --
Kindall: I can't even get him out of the door.
Nina: Having one little longer before you get into your routine.
Kindall: How to get his hands in those little snow --
Nina: Oh! Where was I? You should have called me. I had experience.
Kindall: Everybody else just passed having babies. I was home alone.
Nina: Oh! My god.
Kindall: Everyday, it took me till noon, to get the two of us dressed and out the door. By the time I came to last one, I needed 11 seconds. I dressed them in the car. I put them in the car seats and said, dress yourself, go out all naked, not my problem.
Nina: We shall be right back.
Kindall: I am telling you.
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