Nina: Alright, we're back you all and now we're talking about a hot topic baby. This is a topic about who gets to go to be with you in that birth room very, very touchy subject for lot of people. Of course your parents want to be in there. You know my mother of course -- I mean it's not known issue. The mother of course of the person giving wants to be in the room to witness birth of a granddaughter.
Kendall: My parents happened to be in another part of the country and they were and it worked out so well for everybody. We called, we said we're finished. Messy part is over you are grandparents.
Nina: You know they have all those maternity show that are live and they have like everybody coming in that room honey. That's not a good idea because you're having the most important and traumatic and painful event happening to you. You can't be having a big crowd in there. This is not the Superball guys.
Kendall: The thing I like best about labor and I know it's hard to find - like best of labor that the okayness of being able to yell a 4 letter words at the top of your lung and without recrimination it is so emancipating. I can't have my father stand there while I yell out the F word as loud as I can. I mean I felt like an Amazon being able to do it but I freezed at that point. I mean really.
Nina: But when you see all the people with their kids and then the nieces and nephews and there is a whole party and they are eating. 10 people video taping it, I video taped actually 4 of my last births so I think it was a private moment between husband and myself and my baby who is being strangled to death by the umbilical cord and then we have it on camera as a matter of fact.
Kendall: I had very quick labor. I have not time for photos; I have no time for anything. I walk in, I sit down I push 4 times I say that's it. However, that in mind how many strangers walk by you, you've got a foot in this strap, a foot in the strap. If strangers walk by going oh! Looks good. You're looking good, wow! You're looking good. [cross talk]
Nina: And they are not looking at your face, and they are not even looking at your chest.
Kendall: They are looking at your lips, some other kind of lips.
Nina: I can't believe she said that.
Kendall: Well anyway. You got to tell these people -
Nina: They are just -- somebody you're very, very close with, your husband obviously and your mother and may be sister perhaps. I think women can feel more attuned to other women's pain because they've been there. So someone like your sister let's say she had a child, she wants to be there with you.
Kendall: But sister does not have any children.
Nina: Then don't invite your sister.
Kendall: Plus I was wearing the dress for one of the pregnancies. If she'd seen what happened to that dress during the pregnancy she wouldn't have been happy.
Nina: I just liked to have my husband in to look after and that's it.
Kendall: I think that's enough the odd nurse, preferably people whose you don't know.
Nina: Well, you don't want to people to see when you lose control and so you know you present it very nice and sought to out of world but then when you're in that bed all things can go arise as you said before and you're screaming F word so.
Kendall: I don't want to think about it anymore right now.
Nina: The make up, screaming but we'll be right back. We'll talk about it later.
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