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Mary Rambin: While I'm in Houston, I thought I would my girls to Benjy’s and sit them down and get down to what it’s like to be married in your 20’s. You know I always talk about how I’m a little uncomfortable about being unmarried at 27 and this is why. Most of my girl friends in Houston are married.
So today, I'm going to ask them the down and dirty questions, mistake, best decision ever, what’s it like being married in your 20’s and get the real answers from the horse’s mouth because lord knows, the girls and I have no idea.
Welcome to Benjy’s happy hour. These are my two girl friends from high school, Alyssa and Whitney.
Ladies, thank you for joining me. Is this not like the most lush happy hour food you’ve ever seen?
Alyssa: Yes.
Whitney: It looks gorgeous.
Mary Rambin: It’s a $5 menu. Look at me, being cheap.
They are here to talk about being married in your 20’s.
Tell me what it’s like? Like what is it like to be married right after college?
Whitney: We got engaged my last month of college and we didn’t get married for another year and I went immediately into law school which is different. But it was good to have that year time just kind of relax, get you steady of moving in with someone else, sharing a home with someone being together all the time.
Alyssa: For me it was like not scary at all like, totally no you know, no nerves, no nothing because I guess if you dated someone for I mean, like me 5 and half years before marriage, it really is kind of, I mean I know this is cliché to say it’s the next step. But like, if it doesn’t feel like the next step then it probably is.
Mary Rambin: I wonder why that it doesn’t happen for people outside of the South. Like, what do you think that is? Like what is down here that makes everybody kind of where that’s just the obvious next step, where that’s just natural, that’s comfortable and people in New York, LA, wherever, don’t feel that way.
Alyssa: Well I think there’s more pressure in the South for sure. Just because it seems like more customary in the South that people you know are like, starting to get married younger.
Mary Rambin: But you didn’t feel pressure, did you?
Alyssa: No, no, no, no. I think we’re on the earlier side so we didn’t feel pressure.
Mary Rambin: Yes.
Alyssa: But I do since a lot of people were you are sudden feeling pressure now.
Whitney: Now.
Mary Rambin: Usually, I feel like, when people who are older get married, one person is very stable or both are stable and here you're both growing your careers. You're both kind of moving up the ladder in your respective industries and so what is that like?
Whitney: I thought it was great to have my husband have him there as I’m going through this transition stage from student to guidehood, student and now as an attorney, just having someone there.
Mary Rambin: Alyssa.
Alyssa: I agree with you on that and I also think that it’s one of those things where if you ever you know talk to your parents about what their first years of marriage were like they say that, “No, we were so poor and we ate like Campbell soup” but they make it sound like it was the most fun part of their life.
I’m kind of feeling that same pattern repeating itself. As you put it like we’re still building our careers but not being able to have whatever you want is kind of like, a chance to like.
Mary Rambin: It’s a challenge and it’s fun, adventure.
Alyssa: Trying to do it you know, save money and be economical.
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Mary Rambin: Whitney’s pregnant.
Whitney: Yes.
Mary Rambin: So, what about the like the money thing like, how does that all work out, I mean especially right now, when you know everybody’s economic going through a tough time. How does that all work out?
Whitney: I think it’s something you need to talk about with each other definitely. We share our accounts because we see it as our account together.
Alyssa: We did the same thing, you know combine big accounts into one and at first, I don’t think I was the one who was nervous about it. I think it was Bryan because he’s a, “Oh dear god, please don’t drain our account in one day” or something. So there are definitely times when I’m like, “I’ll give anything to be able to be anonymous and go buy something and not have him see it you know, those days are gone. And like the grocery same thing, it’s actually kind of cheaper. I think buying for more than one person.
Mary Rambin: What are some tips on living together, I mean now that you know you're still kind of changing as people so, what do you do?
Alyssa: We decided to give each other like to have chores. I always do the dishes, it doesn’t bother me at all. Bryan always takes out the trash, he always does like all the lawn stuff obviously.
Mary Rambin: Alright.
Alyssa: So you know, it’s like I kind of pick the ones that didn’t us, so I never have to worry about taking out the trash and if it needs to be taken out, I’m like, “That’s your job” and I’m serious.
Mary Rambin: I hate to take out the trash.
Whitney’s pregnant.
Whitney: Yes.
Mary Rambin: Congratulations!
Whitney: Thank you!
Mary Rambin: What is that like?
Whitney: It’s a whole new world. I have my baby and other things growing.
Mary Rambin: And Alyssa, the on the way, what are you thinking?
Alyssa: No, definitely not. I’m not going to give you the real goal yet.
Mary Rambin: She’s like, no face. Enjoy the cocktail.
Alyssa: I would be thrilled if I were to get pregnant but right now, that’s not in the plans yet.
Mary Rambin: Well that’s so cool you all. Thank you so much for sharing because I just wanted everybody to know that this is, this is just how it is in Houston.
Sorry to say this, but everybody is like, “They’re going to get divorced”. I’m like, “No, no. You should see these girls, they’re like genuinely happy, they have these amazing husbands”.
Alyssa and Whitney, thank you all so much for coming to Benjy’s happy hour with me. I mean this is so much fun to catch up.
Alyssa: It was great.
Mary Rambin: And I hope that you all learned a little bit about young love and it’s not so scary and that happily ever after exist, right ladies?
Whitney: Right.
Alyssa: Right.
Mary Rambin: Cheers to that!
Alyssa: Cheers!
Mary Rambin: And congratulations. Bye!
Which is scarier, that or being on camera?
Whitney: Probably being on camera for me.
Mary Rambin: See? To me it’s the other way around.
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