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Jennifer: Hi we are back again with our good friend Paul Carlson who is a life coach here in Dallas Texas and over the next few videos we are actually going to try to enter some of your toughest questions in a way that is non judgmental and just kind of our normal not, I do not want to say it in the only way that we can do it.
Dan: Yes that works.
Why cannot my threesome have three men?
Jennifer: Hi this question is from Shanon in Florida. Dear Dan and Jennifer, this past weekend my honey and I had a great talk about sex, the one question that kept coming up with no answer is why are men so attracted of the idea of two women together? Where does it come from?
Dan: It is sort of a fact of life though.
Jennifer: Why is it that when people look at two women it is not taboo, it is hot right? But when you say two men everybody is like “oh my god!”
Dan: That was not me.
Jennifer: You know, what is it, why, where are the stigma coming from, why is one okay and one is not new especially with men. Where does this come from?
Paul Carlson: It is cultural conditioning sometimes it is religious conditioning. The human person has a natural curiosity about most things, including sex and all variations of it. If you see, two dogs going at it most people do not look away and it is not because they are really interested in dogs having sex. It is just like “wow isn’t that strange, you know whatever.” So the things here…
Dan: It is interesting.
Jennifer: I see dogs do that one time, I do not know how the got like that butt to butt, stuck together, weird.
Dan: This whole stuck business; this is really disturbing I am sorry.
Paul Carlson: So we have a situation here where males in our culture and our cultures here are basically macho. Where the men are supposed to be strong and the strength and also basically the dominant one. Not the submissive one so two males having sex implies that one is dominant, one is submissive and males are not supposed to be submissive.
Dan: Oh… that is a very interesting perspective.
Paul Carlson: When you see two women having a relations, two women are very sensuous, they are not just like rub-rub squirt-squirt.
Dan: That is why I enjoy watching two women, exactly.
Paul Carlson: In a woman point of view he drag it out and are you know, I am not going to say that. Women to women need a little bit more…
Jennifer: Warm up time.
Paul Carlson: Warm up time yes so the thing here that the men can explore homosexual fantasies. I am not saying they are thinking about men when they see women. That is not what I am implying here but just that general context of two of the same sex, they can explore that safely in a macho culture by watching two women. Now understand with two women having sex you do not have to worry about having any babies or any of those kinds of things. Same thing if two men are having sex, they do not have to worry about having babies so it is like this freedom. It represents freedom just total sexual abandon that you cannot always really have when it is male female if it is normal coitus. Now if it is other forms, you know then you have to worry about getting pregnant but the point here is really about doing something from a safe level. That it is okay and it is culturally accepted in a macho culture then it is okay at least regardless of any religious taboos.
Dan: Let us not even go there.
Paul Carlson: But the thing here is that it is okay for men to explore that part of the fantasy. Now it is also true that all men at some point in their life have a homosexual fantasy, either it is in pet when they are a kid or when they are adult it could be that they had a passing taught. Maybe there are some guy that is really like an Adonis and he is good looking and all that and he is a fleeting taught or maybe a dream. It is in a dream that is a sexual nature and they freak out, they wake up “oh my god, I am turning gay.”
Jennifer: Am I gay? We get that from so many guys.
Dan: Oh, we get so many questions from that, oh my god this is going to make me gay.
Paul Carlson: The point is n
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