Hi, this is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about dating success man and the topic for this video is tricks to get coffee down with women. This is a quick promo for nebuc, I just finished putting on live. It is called very simple tricks that instantly boost your confidence with women. It is a very shortly book, 30 pages and it is available at vitalcoaching.com/confidencewithwomen.htm. Now I want to tell you a little bit what this book is about so that you can understand and it will give you also some cool quick tips and hints on how to gain confidence precisely with women. It is probably one of the key challenges that many guys have out there and the struggle, sometimes for a whole lifetime on how to dare to approach women or ask woman out.
So what I want to give you here are some quick hints on how to boost your confidence if this is the challenge you are facing right now. So one of the things to understand first is that it is pretty normal to be a little bit afraid or challenged by the idea of walking out just to somebody on the street or in a public place in such a conversation. Why? Because everybody walks around with natural invisible shields or protection, it is like a no run that we have around us which protects us when we go out there, in the city or in life. And keep on interacting with each other not just physically but it is not just what you see physically but there is something going on on the most shuffle level. So when you as a guy, you come anywhere closer to a woman, most of the times you get this kind of, you hit like this shield or this energy response which almost tells you to back off.
That is a little bit the type of energy response that you tend to get and it is pretty natural to prove action, you can up the action when you feel that. So one of the things that you can do to overcome that which is also called approach anxiety that you can feel. One of the tips to over come that is to focus on very easy target, you do not have to approach women in public places, okay. You can start by sending messages online, for instance sending, going to a dating site and approaching women within a cyber content within the dating site, it is much easier than to meet live within public place for instance. So you can start by taking steps on that level and train a little bit your approaches, train your dating skills, train your simple conversation topics and you will see that this boost your confidence very fast. Another thing that you can do is have a few lines prepared and just make a pick up line that you were going to just repeat.
The idea is to get a couple very interesting conversation topics you can have and that you prepare a little bit before you go out there to social event or to a club or to a place where you think that you were going to be interacting with women. So if you have a couple of ideas, conversation topics on how to start then it makes things much easier because you already taught about something. If you start thinking about it on the moment when you think of approaching of somebody and reason is to leave because you are already a bit situation on our mind which is already more challenging so if you already a little bit prepared before hand, there you often, this is going to give you already a confidence which is a bit higher. The thing is that what you see - when you want to approach a woman or a girl you are attracted to, what you see or what is destructed to your lot of works, really best.
But the idea is to teach and another thing that you can do as well is to come up with an opinion opener, ask a woman of her opinion about specific topic or something that you saw in town or something that is going on in the city or something else, okay, it is an opinion opener and this is a very good way to start conversation. But what I think works best by experience, I think its teasing line and by teasing line is not just line that you see and the woman is going to give you answer and you start talking about something else, okay, it is a teasing direction. It means that you start challenging theory to people and something that she is proud off and this works truly well. And of course this is not being aggressive, you are being respectful when you do that but simply you challenge her your playfully, teach her on the topic of something she is proud of. There is much more to see on that and of course the five minute video is going to stop here. Take care and go back to the site to get the e-books right away, take care and bye-bye.
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