Jennifer Okay, this is so awesome. I just have to say this. We are getting more, and more, and more questions from our you tube viewers so that is really awesome. Keep them coming.
Dan I love you guys. Thank you.
Jennifer Dear Dan and Jennifer,
I am in a long distance relationship with a guy I have never met. I have seen him on web cam but that is it. I seem to have fallen for him and I love him very much. We use to talk all the time but lately we have not talk at all.
The past few weeks, I have only said a few things to him and one of those times that I was mad about something else and complaining to him. We seem to fight all the time and I do not know what I can do to fix it.
We tried all sorts of things but nothing seems to work. Please help us.
Dan Talked about save sex, I mean really. Relationship over web cam hand to hand only, okay.
Stop what all these things are all about. You know relationships over a web cam; I mean you can have a true traditional I should say, perhaps on being naïve.
Jennifer But in your personal
Dan People need human contact, other people. It is very dangerous to start developing this relationship with the person far away that you chat which is only on the phone or that you use a web cam.
Because your imagination is going to fill in all these things that you would love to see in your perfect person and you can overlay those on top of this person and guess what happens.
As this person starts not to meet all these things that you made up in your head, that they should be, it is going to fall apart. It is going to really go wrong. As suppose to potentially being an awesome relationship.
Get up and hand me this computer and meet this guy.
Jennifer Yes. I mean I do not know if that is even possible and you guys live that way, it is another part but if you are going to have a relationship, you got to be together, I mean long term.
Technologies are wonderful, you know. We have friends all over the world now that we never would have met without the internet and web cam and streaming videos, and all these kinds of things. They are really awesome.
But it made us lazy, okay. Because real person to person interaction is hard work, I hate to say that but you have to listen, you have to make sure your body language is right, you have to pay attention. You have to pay attention is a way more difficult and it takes a lot more effort so sometimes I think we get lazy.
I am not saying that is what happened to you and maybe a distance thing but, if you want to have any kind of relationship, you got to get off line.
Dan people do have long distance relationships but you got to remember. As human beings, we need that person to person contact. Maybe with someone they knew it for a while but that is something bad. Okay, person to person contact
Jennifer Person to person contact
Dan Yes, maybe later
Jennifer And not to have coming back
Dan No, person to person contact, get up from behind that computer you meet this guy, you meet somebody else and you try to get something for real. Get up from behind that computer.
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