Wedding Planning Ideas

Female: Now you know that as the wedding doctor, I mean how did you get that title? Sarah Haywood: That came about when I was doing a lot of my local radio shows and I do little phone ins and Diamond said to me one day, “Well you’re really the wedding doctor, aren’t you?” And it kind of stocked and I quite like it. I like the fact that I’m sort of a wedding agony aunt. So well yeah, I go with it. Female: Now in planning a wedding and I know it’s so stressful, where do you start? Sarah Haywood: I have a thing that I call the big five and it’s very, very tempting when you first get engaged. To start getting carried away with all the details of the day, what flowers you’re going to have and what the room’s going to look like, what flavors you’re going to get it on table and I just say stop, just stop right there because you got to do five things which is you’ve got to decide how you’ll going to get married. Is that going to be a religious or a civil ceremony? Where you’re going to get married and by that I mean just a rough geographical location. You know will it be near where you live, where one of your parents live, abroad? When and again not the date but about approximately when you want to want to get married, you want to get married at Christmas time, you want to get married in high summer, Easter, do you think you might be on a tight budget and maybe you want to think about a class of time of year. So just a rough idea of when. Who, by that I mean who do you want that there and this is the people you really, really want there and then the million dollar question, how much money can you spend? Female: What tends to cause the most arguments? Sarah Haywood: I would say that planning a wedding. When they aren’t planning it for you or whether you’re the couple planning the wedding it’s all about expectations. And weddings are hugely important days to lots and lots of people. Its not just you as a couple and it is your day primarily but it’s a day that also belongs to the key members of your family, your parents, your siblings, possibly your children. And what happens is you’ve got all these people with an expectation of how this day and this event is going to be and the reason wedding planning become stressful is mainly to do with no adding out all the expectations very early on. And it’s really important that you sit down and you listen to each other even if you reject the ideas. People just want to be heard. Female: Yes that’s a good point. So you need to compromise, you need to hear each other. Sarah Haywood: You do and the bride would 25, 30, it’s actually 33 is the average bride. In this country it’s 33 years old. Female: Right. Sarah Haywood: Average groom is 36. So if the bride is 34 years, your daughter is getting married and she says to you “oh I guess the children don't come,” that would be devastating to you and that is why these arguments occur. So think about who’s important to you and what’s important to them. Female: So if you have to give one definitive piece of information to transform a wedding to make it just perfect it would be that Sarah Haywood: It would be to remember that a wedding day is a day where we affirm the consent to family before family and friends, people who brought you to this point in your life. People who want to see this commitment succeed and that’s what the day’s about and remember all through this planning.