Jennifer: Hi we are here with dating and relationships courtesy of Victoya Rogers. She is the author of the Automatic Second Date and the founder of Mantokeep.com. Now get this Victoya was been on more than a 101first dates and about a year and a half time for in and more than 98 of those dates ask her on a second date.
Dan: Wow.
Jennifer: Yes that is incredible and today we are talking to Victoya not only that kind of how to get that first date but you know what do you do and what you not do on that first date to guarantee a second date.
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Okay Victoya we have talked a lot about how to get that second date and what happens when you go out on a first date and I have been there I think all of us have you go out it went great, it was awesome and it is like “Hey I will call you in a few days.”
Dan: And he smocks out.
Jennifer: He is gone.
Dan: There is kind of days go with it
Jennifer: Yes what happen? Yes why he did not call back?
Victorya: You go on the first date and you did the best you can. You hopefully have read the Automatic Second Day in while your skills great stuff on that but there are times when he would not call back. What you do when that first date is over is you go on with your life. You are not going to call him, you are going to chase him, you are not going to wonder if a week goes by and he has not called you. You are not going to call him or stalk him or say why you did not call me?
Jennifer: You have said you are going to call?
Victorya: Yes.
Dan: You said you are going to call that is why I am outside your house at this hour [laughter]
Jennifer: What if going through his heads psycho.
Dan: That yes you need to live three times a day. You are not that busy.
Vicrtorya: And I will tell you if you do not know what is going on in their life. Yes---they could be finishing in another relationship, they can have some crisis in life, and it might be a month or two before you hear from them. And if you are cool when he calls again or when you ran into him and you just say “hey how are you?” then he is going to say, “oh I was wrong not to call her”..
Dan: You like it did not stop because she has not called, because he has not called you?
Victorya: Yes. Because he may get a reason why he did not call back? But if you are cool about it when he runs into you he will think his impression was wrong and he will give you another chance.
Jennifer: So what happens? I know this questions is going to come, maybe he lost your number for real?
Victorya: Then you just got to let it go. If he wants you he is going to try.
Dan: It is worth to call him back without yes that is right.
Jennifer: That is a good question. That is a very...
Dan: I can always find a girl I like and I am not a creepy way. I but did. Never mind. [Laughter]
Victorya: But you can burn [Muffled] the internet, they are watching this video. If somebody wants to find you they can.
Dan: I can always find you.
Victorya: Yes [laughter].
Jennifer: Stalker [laughter].
Dan: Weirdo. We always get so many questions from guys this is especially with the whole seduction stuff. There are so many guys; the big question is how long do I wait? Do I have to wait two, three, four days before I call her? How should I wait I do not seem too eager. And we always tell look you like her give her a call back. You do not have to wait five and a half days. Give her a call back, be cool, do not be super clean boy but call here back.
Victorya: If you like you her call her the next day. Thank you---but I do not have to do that, yes--- I mean if you do not call for a couple of days that is fine. Bottom line is…you do not have to play hard games--- you do not. Everybody plays games and it is silly but it is human nature. So if he calls you the next day that is cool.
Jennifer: Yes.
Victorya: If he does not and he does not call you for five days he could be just like stressing and thinking what is the appropriate time to call back.
Jennifer: And all guys do that. They do.
Victorya: So you guys do not mess up so girls just let it go that is true--- and
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