What if your ex was your best and only friend?
Hi, this is Francisco Bujan from VitalCoaching.com. We are talking about break ups for men and for women and the topic for this video is what if your ex was your best and only friend. This question was posted on my channel and it was posted by a guy. So, I am going to answer the question within that contest it should be easier for me to communicate within that way. You know I am talking for men and the women did break up with him but if you are a woman and your boyfriend or husband did break up with you.
You can apply exactly the same strategy, okay. So, when you are in a relationship and your girlfriend is the only friend that you have. The one you do not call that social call that you have, that is not a very nice situation to be in. Why? Because you become extremely dependent from each other and when you are in this kind of situation you end up being very needy and very demanding on the other person. Most of the time you feel extremely vulnerable because if your girlfriend does not do what you are expect very often it makes you feel very insecure and you end up being on the power level which is relatively low.
So, if you are or having this situation my advice is very simple and it just do something about it. Start looking at the wider social circle and start activating your social life in a very constructive way. To do that, you have to boost your social power you have to add qualities and skills that you do not have may be yet and the goal is simple start interacting and connecting with new friends, new people more frequently and more easily.
So, whether you are in a break up situation and your girlfriend did break up with you or if you are still in your relationship that is not a good situation to be in anyway. If she is your only friend, if she is your only social contact then you need to do something about it anyway. So, when you break up of course each more challenging because if she was your only support in life as a friend the only person with whom you would go out, hang out. Then of course is more challenging but the challenge is basically the same.
It means that you still have to go out there and start interacting with people. Do not isolate your self but start reconnecting with your social life and boost your social power, okay. You can go back to VitalCoaching.com/breakupformen.htm and get the program that I have there. This is a full set of strategies that have in the book, audios, and videos now on his channel there is a lot of expert advices that they give to people in break up situations.
So, go and get this program right now it is at VitalCoaching.com/breakupformen.htm. If you are a women go to VitalCoaching.com/breakupforwomen.htm break up for women, okay. The full set of strategies on break up situations is there and I really encourage you to go and get it right now if you are in a break up situation. This will save you a lot time and lot of travel. I recorded this material and posted it on my site especially for men and women in break up situations and honestly I have been coaching dozens and dozens of guys and women on this specific topic.
And, you can save a lot of time if you have the right set of strategies so go and get it now. Now, to go back to your challenge when you want to boost again your social life and this you will need to do it anyway when you are in a break up situation because you do not want to isolate your self. What you want is to boost your social life. It is very important that you understand a bit more about social dynamics and I cover this in detail as well in my program.
So, go and check it and get the strategies. Now, the reason why you feel like when you are in a break up situation or when you are in this break up it is all that it is a challenge that is an emotional challenge because you really shift from being two persons to being just one and when you are in a couple situation basically you start to rely emotion on the other person. You are creating a cluster of energy which is you and her and this is what really fits you in which a polarized kind of couple and this is what represents your emotions at best.
So, when you shift from being two people to being just one then this is a bit of a challenge because you start relying much more on yourself and this is where you have to get your energy more. So, expanding your social circle is really something that is going give you a boost and on top of that you have new dating opportunities. Take care for now and enjoy. Goodbye.
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