Hi this is Francisco Bujan from vitalcoaching.com and I will take you on the ride to go back. I have to go and do some shipping to see my free chance to give you a quick message while driving here. And the topic for this video is what jealousy especially this is a message for guys. It is about what to do with your jealousy when you feel that you are possessive, demanding and controlling attitudes are really destroying your relationship and your girlfriend is really get tried with you. You obviously have to find the solution in what you are doing, something about it. So What I want to tell you is it that I have been couching dozens of guys on this topic and what I notice is that most of the times when a guy want to change some patterns in his behaviors but he knows that jealousy is really have pattern that relax it is very little that he can do about it was a trend looks in the, but many strategy out there that you have to deal with that. So what I created to this program it is called jealousy how to deal with it for guys.
That is on my site at vitalcoaching.com and you can go directly to vitalcouching.com/jealousyformen.htm again I re peat vitalcouching.com/jealousyformen.htm and everything you need is right there and beside. Now what I wan to tell you it is that when you face jealousy the first thing that you have to do is understand what is jealousy is bringing, that is the first step. Is to understand the dynamics of possessive and demanding attitudes in your relationship, which is the first step. The second step is to have a strategy to tackle the behavior or change the behavior of the w mind sets and the third, the third steps is to actually apply the strategies and make the behavior by practicing these new behavior and new attitudes. So this is the three steps process which is very simple to understand.
Now what I want to do right now is simply give you hints on what is jealousy really ease. Because you have to understand, be aware and why frustrated for a days mostly for the thing that will assist you in what is happening is just evil, that is just stupid, and that should not ever be there in the first place and obviously at totally disability. Jealousy is just a weapon; you know it is a set of strategies behaviors, attitudes, mind sets, through its emotions it was device really like in your mind to deal with encouraging situations and relationship. The first goal of jealousy, the jealousy attitudes is to protect relationship and if you trend back you only imagine that you are living ten thousand, twenty thousand years ago. Then it is a pattern that you will need really to protect your family, to protect your children so that your wife does not run away to somebody else and you end up being in trouble.
So it has a purpose and this is why it is so entangled within my mind and sometimes we tend into this topic to this strategy knowing what is happening because it is part of our instinct. It is embedding I mean Isolate distractions it is really need it and it is useful. Now 95% of the cases the way that it is used now a day’s well it is no longer need it. It means that it is a pattern which is created or applied in situations where you do not really need it and that what is you need to understand straight away it is that in some adjudicative cases jealousy is indeed you know use from response that you can have but most of the cases just to district this pattern and this is why when positioning in our human evolution where we can do something about it that is very good. This is why the vital this program. So if you are a guy and you are fighting with the jealousy pattern. There is a solution, there is a way to tackle that and honestly I do believe that within thirty days you can do a huge amount of progress you can tackle probably 50% to do a pattern in a time. So go back to the sight vitalcoaching.com/jealousyformen.htm it is all there, okay you take care. Bye, bye.
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