Hi! I am Rachel Greenwald and I'm a dating coach, matchmaker and author of the new book, "Why He Didn't Call You Back". First dates aren't real. First dates are a series of misperceptions and jumping to conclusions of who somebody really is.
One reason, why men don't call women back is something that I called the Blahs. And this is not a women who is Blah, but it's a date that has the Blahs written all over it. Her answers to standard questions are really stale. Don't just recite the facts, but come up with a creative and innovative spin on an answer.
The women mention that she had an iPod, and that she always had it on the repeat setting. He use that as a metaphor for her personality, and he thought the girl that plays the song over and over and over again, she is probably kind of boring.
Another guy in my interview described a women who he said was Oprah Eyes. She was the type of women who did everything Oprah told her. And the guy walked away thinking, my date has no opinions of her own.
Another reason that men confess they don't call women back is something they call the Park-Avenue Princess. This is a woman who is looking for a perfect ten. A five on the looks scale with $5 million in the bank. One of the ways that men perceived a women as a Park-Avenue Princess was, if she started asking questions that he thought were like the money detective questions. Don't ask him if his company gives you stock options. Don't ask what neighborhood he lives in, or what kind of car he drives, those signal that you're really fishing around to find out how much money he has.
It's important to show appreciation to the guy when he pays for dinner. 84% of men told me that they prefer the fake purse grab, then the blind eye. So a little appreciation comes a long way.
Another reason men don't call back, I called the Sadie Hawkins, and this is women who pursues a men. She is doing something that she thinks is polite. She sending him a thank you email or text the next morning.
On the one hand, they thought it was polite and showed good manners that the woman was thinking now. But at the same time they felt a little deflated. You know we are just back to the caveman theory, men like the chase. I don't want you to pretend to be someone you're not. I want you to just get to know him a little bit better by avoiding some of these stereotypes.
He'll be intrigued with you and want to get to know you better by asking you out again. And then, you can be in the driver seat and accept or decline his invitation.
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