Francisco Bhujan: Hi this is Francisco Bhujan from vitalcoaching.com. We are talking about waking up your power and the topic for this video is "you come first." When coaching was first introduces you know some years ago actually coaching is a very resent profession, it's explored in the last five to ten years so before that they were maybe a couple of coaches but nothing much in the live coaching field. There were coaches in sports but not so much in live coaches. So, one of the key ideas with coaching is that we give you bang in the control seat, we say that you are the person who matters the most.
When you come to the coaching session, it's not about other people, it's about you, it's about you gaining extra power, extra effectiveness, extra confidence maybe in your mind but it's about you and this is one element or one keep constant or idea to remember it at times. You come first, now you might think, either that a bit selfish, am I allowed to think about myself first, I have children, I have a boss, I have a husband or a partner or wife who is demanding and to whom I am committed so how come I can say that I come first. Well, let's see perfective, let's see what happens if you don't come first.
Imagine that you are systematically feeding other things in your life, other people engaging to other thing. Of course this can work for you but what you can see in society very often is that people get quite exhausted, there is very high level of tiredness, depression and happiness which is going all around and most of the times this has to do with the fact that many people don't feel themselves enough, don't feel they are live enough, they don't take that to nurture what really is important for them and if you start cheating priorities, you will realize that everything benefits from it.
If you are unhappy, if you are drained, if you are exhausted, tired or angry, your mood is going to influence absolutely everything and everybody, alright, specially if you have children ( that was the phone ) I was saying specially if you have children, your kids need you to be happy, they need you to be in a good state of mind, they need you to be in a position where they know that they can rely on you and that you are taking care of yourself. If you are collapsing in an emotional level you feel not just because of happy that's what you are going to project out. So nobody is benefiting from it. So when we say you come first, we are saying that you have to take care of yourself first before you start giving and if you start giving front positional power, positional high energy, your positional high health then it's okay you can keep on giving but if you come to a point where you start feeling exhausted, you start feeling burnt out, drained, hired, then it's really the sign, it's time to starting cheating priorities and give yourself better priority.
Now, the turn over the idea of being selfish might be something that you might resist, you might think well, it's not really ethically correct to think of myself first. Well, this is the key idea to shift, you can, you don't have to 100% that prove but I'm saying if you don't want to -- but if you recognize something in there that you can use then go ahead and do it, do it go ahead and take that idea inside yourself and for one week try it out, one week you give yourself the priority and see what happens really. I am sure that when people see you in a happier state, in a higher level of energy, they benefit as well, they are happy for you, they want you to be happy. So when you start expressing that and you start giving yourself back to priority then everything that's shifting around.
One way to do it is to think for yourself, okay, half-a-day the week I take it for myself, whether it's having a day out with my friends or training or going in nature or doing something which is going to be nurturing at monotonous (ph) power or something like that, you simply give yourself the priority half the day, a week and of course you give yourself the priority all the time but focus on having the chunk of time which is dedicated just for you where you can nurture yourself, nurture your feelings, nurture your energy, give yourself a good boost and a good treat, okay. This is one way to start, remember for now, you come first, and that's the advice for this video. Take care, and have a good day, bye, bye.
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